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| Sun, 11-19-2006 - 8:09pm |
Been a long time since I posted here so I'll re-intro myself: I'm Sandy, SAHM to DD16, SS15 and DS3 (almost 4)...with another SS living w/ BM.
I clean, take care of running kids around....all the usual stuff.
I just want to know.... do *I* get a day off? It seems I have to *go away* somewhere to get any time that I don't have to worry if the dog/cats/fish have been feed..heck, before I even get to go to the bathroom first thing it's take the dog out (so he doesn't pee on flour), then feed cats(inside one and outside) then fish, then get breakfast started...all before I get to go.... I really am scared ***SOMETHING** is buiding inside. I DO NOT want to go back to work....but yet I want every1 else to realize that I do not just sit on my butt all day long.
LOL Little one knocking on door now.... gotta go. there ya go. end my day also with "mommie mommie mommie"
Am I a bad Mom to just want a break??>?>>?
Sandy

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I am a SAHM with 4 kids (DS 13,DD9,DS6,DD3) and I am crazy enough to do home daycare.
I used to feel guilty or selfish for wanting me time. It bugged me that my husband just did things- even walked out to talk to a neighbour across the street or went and took an hour long shower- while I literally had to beg for 15 minutes once a week for a bath!
I am always with kids- running errands, while cleaning, while cooking, walking back and forth to school as well as planning games, reading, etc.
If you don't get time for yourself- and sometimes you need to be "selfish" and demand it, you will explode. Or at least I felt that way.
I love my kids and the children I care for. But my fantasy is to be on a deserted island with just myself and a few good books.
One thing that saved my sanity is to talk with other moms while our kids play at park. I am a little shy, but I have forced myself to be bold and to talk to other moms, this is a social time for me. I used to thing too that I had to spend every minute entertaining my kids- now I make sure they can get started at activities with minimal supervision. Not all the time, but every once in a while I need to recharge.
As well, one half hour of an educational video will not damage your children's development. Kids need a mom who is calm and relaxed and who takes care of herself.
Anyways, you are not selfish, take care of yourself, so you can take care of your little one.
P.S. I know what you mean about people thinking we do nothing all day. There are days I am on the go from 6 am to 6:30 Pm with no sitting down, no coffee breaks etc.
All the best
Tina
Dear Sandy
I sure hope that you aren't a bad mom because that would make a lot of us bad moms as well!!
It is much harder than I thought staying at home - at least dh gets some downtime while commuting, going out to lunch or the gym, having a laugh with co-workers and then he has me trying to make his evening easier instead of handing the baby right off to him.
Good luck
Hugs
Shannon
4yrs ttc
2 IUI's, 3 IVF's, 1 FET - finally got my BFP on IVF #4!!
4yrs ttc
2
good luck finding some time for your self,
arie
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that's what I'm afraid of! lmao
Looking at joining a gym...at least that'll give me a hour to myself.
Thanks!
Sandy
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