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A friend needs help
| Fri, 11-19-2004 - 10:36pm |
I have this friend who is having problems with her hubby. She saw someone that she has always had a thing for at a party, while she was away. She slept with the man, even though they didn't have actual sex, she did a hand job. She loves her husband, and she doesn't know what to do. Do any of you have any ideas? She says that the guy really loves her kids and would do anything for her. She is really upset and confused right now. I told her that I would ask you guys on the board, because you guys always have great advice.

Yikes! That is a tough one!
Okay the way I see it, even if she finds her heart going in a different direction. She needs to have NO contact with this other person at all unless she is willing to totally give up on her marriage. She needs to explore what led her to this and her true feelings for her Dh. Cheating is cheating...even if you just kiss or hold hands. Anytime you give of yourself to another person in an intimate way, who is not your spouse is cheating.
She needs to either help herself and her Dh get back on track or have the courtesy of ending it with him.
She also needs to be aware that there are some men who will claim to love and care about you and your children because it boosts their own ego to be able to "take" a woman away from her husband. There are also men who love illicit sex and will be willing to ruin a
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A lie would only make things worse.
And telling the husband the truth about it might make them closer and help them work out any problems they might be having.
Good luck to your friend.