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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 8:32pm

Misty - Due 4/2/09

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Registered: 02-21-2007
In reply to: misty0705
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 10:51am
I'm Alexandra (yes, I am called Sandy for short), 36, live in California with my husband, a patent attorney, and 2 little girls. Contrary to one poster's suggestion, our relationship is great, and I've SAH for the past 2 years, but I do work part-time on occasion (every few months I help on a large project) at the management consulting firm I worked at before I had my second daughter. We are extremely blessed in all respects (lovely home, private schools, ability to travel, etc.), but in my view the strength of our marriage and family is the largest blessing. I am just very careful not to say or do anything that can cause others to think I'm bragging about how sweet, generous, and successful my husband is -- I believe that's rude and insensitive to others -- that's what prompted my first post. I apologize if it was poorly worded, but believe me, jealousy did not prompt it. I also believe that every woman should have a backup plan to prepare for any contingency, whether she works outside or inside the home. Even in California, where we have fairly generous community property laws, I have seen female friends of mine devastated financially after a divorce, even with a large settlement (including with a house paid for outright in a few cases), as the amount in spousal and/or child support is significantly less than the husband brought home before. There's no more disposable income, and in most cases, there's a big gap in funds necessary to pay household expenses. So I have seen women in their late 30s-late 50s basically have to go back to work for the first time in 10-20 years, and it's not fun, especially when they are shocked and distraught that their world has fallen apart. I don't think preparing for that contingency means I'm overly pessimistic and less dedicated to my marriage vows, but if I had to go back to work FT, I think I've put myself in the best position to do it, not that there are any gurantees.
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Registered: 11-24-2003
In reply to: misty0705
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 2:16pm

While I agree that having a back-up plan is a great idea I think that staying at home is also a very viable option. Many working mothers make only enough to pay childcare. Divorce is emotionally and financially devestating to everybody. Even if you are working and get child support. The childcare cost

 

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Registered: 03-11-2007
In reply to: misty0705
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 2:35pm
what is this about? Doesn't make since to me at all.
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Registered: 01-12-2005
In reply to: misty0705
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 3:10pm

Hi ladies,


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