To go back to work or stay at home!?!?

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Registered: 12-20-2005
To go back to work or stay at home!?!?
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Sat, 07-07-2007 - 7:19pm
Hi ladies, just needed some advice please. I am very confused as to whether or not to stay at home with my daughter or go back to work full time. Dont get me wrong I have enjoyed being there for her for 2 years of her life but I feel very ansy. I recently moved to a new town and its hard to meet other new Mommies and many of my close friends dont have children and we dont get together as much as we used to before I had the baby. I knew that being a stay at home would be challenging and when I was pregnant with my daughter and I knew that I would not want to go back to work full time, but feelings change I guess. I dont want to pay the money to put her in daycare so our original plan was for us to wait until Danielle is in preschool but that seems like soo far from now.
We also were planning on ttc baby #2 when Danielle turned 3 but dh and I had a heart to heart and we came to the decision that we werent going to try for another baby (mostly his idea) he just wants us to give our all to Danielle so she can have the best of everything. I went through a lot with the pregnancy. That is also a decision that I think might be best for Danielle but I dont want to have any regrets about it either.
If I go back to work full time, I would ideally like something with childcare on the premises and hope to get at least the money I made before I had Danielle if not more :)
I guess this post is more of a vent than anything and I really need to make a decison about this for myself but it feels good to chat about it with you guys and get it off my chest also.
Thanks for listening and any words of wisdom are greatly appreciated!!
Monica
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Registered: 05-07-2007
Sat, 07-07-2007 - 10:54pm

Hi Monica,


I really don't have any words of wisdom for you.

 

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Registered: 05-22-2007
Sun, 07-08-2007 - 10:16pm

That's a tough decision and one that you have to make depending on what is best for your family. Are you just feeling like you need to become part of something with more adult interaction or is it a money thing because that can make all the difference. You said you were feeling antsy so I would go with Ana's suggestion and try to find a playgroup of mom's group. Or even look into some type of class that you are interested in at a local college?

If you are feeling like you need to go back to work then maybe you should. I think that finding a job with a daycare on site would be wonderful. Are there many in your area because there are zippo here. That would be nice! :) Especially if it is free or inexpensive. I went back to work when Noah was 6 months old and worked for seven months and I liked that I was making money but at the same time I was miserable being away from him all day long. Of course he was still a baby and your daughter is into her toddler times now so it may be different.

I don't really have any advice or anything. Good luck making your decision. You could also make a list of specific benefits you want for your job and then look for a job that has them. If you find a job that has all the things you need (specific pay, certain days off, specific hours, etc.) then maybe it is meant to be.

Tarra

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Registered: 06-19-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 1:17pm

ave you ever thought about working from home?? I also have kids. I have a 3year old and a 15 month old. And like you said it was to expensive to send them to daycare. It wasnt worth it. But i told my husband that i needed to do something or i was going to go nuts. So i started looking for something to do. and then i found this incredible company. and i am not going to try and get you to work for them or anything. but i just thought i would introduce you to the idea of working from home. if you would like you can email me at heatheragilliam@aol.com

Heather