guilty when DH spends time with baby?
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guilty when DH spends time with baby?
| Mon, 04-19-2004 - 11:25pm |
I am a new SAHM with a 2 mo DD, I'm also a first time mom so this is all new to me. I'm enjoying staying home a lot, and DH and I don't have many issues between us. He takes care of the baby a lot and gives me plenty of time to myself. The problem is, whenever he is taking care of her I feel GUILTY. Like it's my job to take care of DD and he's doing me a huge favor by taking her. He loves to spend time with her and they have a very special relationship. Everytime they are together though I can't relax, I feel like I'm being selfish for taking time to myself or "leaving" her with DH. It's so silly, but I can't shake the feeling. I've talked to him about it and he's told me not to feel that way AT ALL, he values his time with her so much since he has to work all day. I just don't know why I feel this way and I'm hoping it goes away with time.

Tanya
Paige
I think most of us feel that way and it is only natural for us to do so.
My husband comes home from being gone 3 weeks and he is so helful with everything, especially the kids and it drives me up the wall!! LOL
I know I should enjoy the help he gives me, but I feel that I should be cleaning the bathroom, doing the dishes and taking care of the kids, since I stay home all day and do nothing, and he works so hard.
But just so you know, you are not alone in feeling that way. Just remember, he would not do it if he didn't love doing it and want to :) Count your lucky stars that he is so helpful
This isn't 1952 and we're not single moms - so give up the guilt and be thrilled that you have a good man who wants to be a good father!
Michelle
Claire & Baby Liberty 2/18/04
Angie