hard being a wife AND a mother.
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hard being a wife AND a mother.
| Thu, 01-29-2004 - 2:29pm |
my husband and i married when i was 6 months preg. before preg, our sex life was fantastic and since the baby i just can't seperate myself from motherhood long enough to bring physical romance back into my relationship. i should mention that my son is already 1 yr old. i didn't think much of it until the 5 month mark, when it really started to affect my marriage. i'm w/ my son all day, i am his jungle gym,and we're playing 1 y/o games and i'm doing house work when i can fit it in. i just don't feel very sexy wearing the same clothes 2 days in a row because i didn't have time or energy for a shower the night before. at this point i feel like if i never had sex again, that would be ok w/ me. we have been intimate about 12 in 12 months. is there something wrong w/ me? i really need advise!

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After having children, things will change and never be the same.
After taking care of a child all day, who wants to waste time thinking of sex lol
It will all slow down and things with your sex life will get better. Your child is still young and you are quite busy all day, so who blames you.
Mel
My DH doesn't understand that if I don't feel sexy, the last thing I want to do is have sex. He thinks that because I used to be a whenever, wherever type of person that nothing should change just b/c of the kids. He hasn't changed as much as I have since the kids were born, but he also doesn't have the same amount of responsibility for them b/c he works outside the home.
I am a WAHM/SAHM so I have to raise my children, build my business, and keep up the house, while trying to make time for my marriage, and he thinks I have it EASY!!! His job is 7:30-4:00, and then he comes home, my job is 24/7. I think it's just a man thing!!
I think I have to agree w/ Jeff Foxworthy on this one, He said " Before you have kids if you have the choice between sleep and sex you choose sex, but when you have kids you choose slepp and just hope to have a dream about sex" Can I get an AMEN?
Just keep your head up, and hopefully your DH will begin to understand how it really is for you, and be more understanding. Have you guys had a chance to get an overnight date?
I know that really made a difference for my DH and me.
HTH,
Michelle
www.momswin.com/homewithyourkids
Many hugs,
Rosie
Edited 1/30/2004 10:47:54 PM ET by jellibean76
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