Has anyone ever heard of this?
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| Tue, 10-17-2006 - 3:39pm |
When I was pregnant with my twins, and found out I was having identical girls, I was at a barbecue at my brother's house. My SIL (brother's wife) hates me for no reason, and always has. She's one of those people who makes veiled snide poisonous comments behind a smile. For example, Michael gave me a tennis bracelet for our anniversary one year, and I never take it off. She told me it was pretty, and then went on to say to my mom: "What would someone need a bracelet like THAT for?" Right in front of me and Michael! (And of course, my mom agrees with her!!). And when we moved into our house in 2000, she came to check it out. I'd chosen a pale sand color for the carpets. She said the carpets were nice and soft, but I was crazy to pick such a pale color with Matthew (he was our only kid then). Just mean stuff like that. So anyway, I was at this barbecue with her, and she put her hand on my pregnant stomach, and said "That's too bad they're identical twins. You know identical twins always get picked on and teased in school." It was such a hurtful comment that it has stayed with me for 3.5 years!!
Well, my mom called me up this morning, and began talking about when I was going to put the girls in preschool (they turned 3 last month). She loves my SIL to death, and is very close to her. She then went on to say to me "I hope you and Michael are going to put them in separate schools all the way through, because Chrissy says if you don't, they're going to get bullied and picked on." Of course we weren't planning on putting them in separate schools! I can't believe she just said that again, and told my mom, no less! Or maybe I *should* believe it, knowing how she is!! But again, I just felt so hurt, even though I know I shouldn't.
She upset me so much, I actually hung up the phone and started crying. I called Michael at work, and he was too busy to really talk, but told me just to blow it off, and why was I listening to a word she says? And he's right. I talked to him a little more about it when I went to have lunch with him at the hospital, and he said he doesn't think it's true, and Chrissy's just saying it to get under my skin and get my mom riled up as usual, and for me please not to give it a second thought. But of course, I can't let it go that easily. I don't have that ability, LOL!
Have any of you ever heard this? What has been your experience if you've known identical twins either now or growing up? Is this something I should know of, being the mom to identical twins, like common knowlege or something? I'm going to run this by my Twins' Club, but also thought I'd ask all of you wise mommies. I'm just feeling really hurt, and a little worried for my girls' future. I can't imagine that there would be anything more painful than having your precious kids picked on.
My SIL is so mean, and I've never done anything to her. I've come to discover that she's jealous of me, although she would never admit it. That's the general consensus amongst my sisters, anyway, and it seems to be the case. She never has anything nice to say to me. She tells my mom and brother, and the rest of my family that I think I'm too good for everyone, I'm a snob, my kids are spoiled, etc. At the same time, she's inappropriate with my DH, flirting with him to the point that about a year ago, he had to put a stop to it, and told her she needed help, and he is not one to confront people if he can help it, so it was really getting out of hand. And I'm about 99% sure she has cheated on my brother. I love my brother dearly, and I love my niece and nephew (their kids), but my SIL really gets under my skin. She knows my buttons (my kids and my husband) and likes to push them. And she gets my mom on her side against me, when I already have a tough relationship with my mom. . . I really try not to let her get to me, but today she did!!
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Sofia


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"Michael thinks it might do them good to be in different classes (NOT different schools!) just to learn to make friends and gain independence from one another on their own."
Now that I agree with Sofia... I definitely think that is a good idea :o)
and I have to add that I also went to school with identical twins, and of course they were the most popular girls in school.
I just don't know how you put up with this lady... does your brother not see how she treats you?
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