He sure can p*ss me off

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He sure can p*ss me off
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Fri, 09-09-2005 - 10:29pm
This is about Chris more then it is about Andrew.

Andrew came home today with some school work. Lets say, he did BAD. I am very upset with his work.
We spoke to him about it and decided that tonight we would work with him on it.

So it turns 8 pm and I am the only one who has remembered about it and decided to do it.
I have to drag Andrew to do it, Chris does not even try to help me with this.

Andrew still does not have a clue what he is doing ( we are learning correct ways to write a sentence)
I have made 4 sentences written the wrong way and ask him to do it the right way.
He still does it wrong. Does not even care that he is doing it wrong and very un sure of how to do it even though we have being doing this for weeks.

Chris just sits watching TV, not caring at all. Says I am being to hard on him and says to quit and do it tomorrow. YA RIGHT!! I know that will never happen.

I finally say that he can do it all with him. Homework, spelling, the whole 9 yards. He thinks he can do it without getting frustrated. I know him, he wont even remember to do his homework after school, will procrastinate and never do it till the last second.

Just makes me mad! I do it all, of course I am going to get frustrated. Andrew sits there and doesn't care even though I know he can do it. Chris just wants to be lazy and "do it later"
UGH

Am I being unreasonable about being mad???





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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-10-2005 - 7:17am

First of all, Mel ((((HUG)))) I think you need to get dh to understand that you need support. Putting off schoolwork is a big no-no in my house. They get off the bus, have a snack, then we work on school stuff. The t.v. is off, I work on dinner and the girls focus on homework. DH is usually off doing something else. However, if we run into trouble, he is close by and willing to help. Maybe Andrew's problem is he sees his dad with the "lazy" attitude and thinks it is o.k. You really need his support, and once Dalton is in school, it is going to be double the work and help needed. So, when the boys are not around, maybe you and Chris can come up with a system together, for helping Andrew. I realize that with your dh's job, he is not home for long periods of time, so that will come into play. But he needs to support you or Andrew will think homework/schoolwork is not important. I hope you and Chris can work it out together. A big hug to you, again. I think in your shoes, I would be upset, too.

Good luck,
Wendy

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Sat, 09-10-2005 - 11:40am
If you are always the one helping with the homework and your dh is criticizing you for how you are handling it, I would be upset too. Maybe it would be good to have dh help with homework for a while. #1 It would give you a break. #2 It would probably get your son tuned in to his work if someone was not frustrated with him and he is used to you working with him. (Sometimes a change of pace makes a difference.) And #3 It would put dh in your shoes for a while and see that maybe it is not that easy. And even if he seems to have a different way with ds that seems to work, well then everyone benefits, right? I hope all this helps. Good luck!
Andrea