Help 2 kids under 2

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Registered: 02-24-2006
Help 2 kids under 2
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Tue, 06-06-2006 - 9:57am
I really need some advice. I found out that I'm pregnant with my third, I have a four year old and a 8 month old. My two youngest will be very close together and I'm not sure I can handle it. Does anyone else have two so close together? I need all the advice I can get. Oh, and I'm still breastfeeding the baby and I'm not really sure if I should stop or not.
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Registered: 11-11-2005
Tue, 06-06-2006 - 10:11am

I have a 4yr old a 3yr old and a 2 yr old, and they are all girls! They are all 17 months apart. I know how you feel. I didn't breast feed though. I tried, but felt awkward so I stopped. It does get stressful, but if you can possibly get time away to yourself, it kind of does the trick. I took the girls out to the park the other day, and saw another woman there. She had triplets (age 2) , plus pregnant again and in her 2nd trimester. When I saw that, I became thankful that I had at least some time apart and one at a time!!!!!!!!

My 2 girls (the 4 & 3 yr. old) got along great (til now) but the oldest one always helped me. When the 3yr.old was growing, she tried to "catch-up" to her sister, so she was easy. The last one is now trying to "catch-up" to her other sister. It does get hard. I'm not going to lie. I am a stay at home mom, and trying just to get a shower in peace is horrible...I get all 3 in the bathroom along with our dog and cat! But, when my DH comes home, I get to go out walking. It does give me a break. TIME FOR YOURSELF...I stress that because I wasn't able to get that til now.

You don't have to stop breastfeeding though, you have another what 6-8mos. til your other child arrives, but if you want to wean you can. That is up to you. I am kind of glad I had them close. It's like "you get it all done at one time," plus, they try to "catch up" to the other, which makes it somewhat easier.

Good luck
Su

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Tue, 06-06-2006 - 10:14am

Wow, that's tough! I have twins and always thought it would actually be harder to have 2 babies at different stages. When my twins were born in July of 2000, my first born had just turned 2 in May. Very difficult!! I'm not sure if you should stop breastfeeding or not. Maybe you should ask your obgyn about that. Sorry I can't be more help!

Erin

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-06-2006 - 10:42am

Don't freak. If I can do it, anyone can do it. I had a 4 year old and a 1 year old, and discovered I was pregnant UNEXPECTEDLY (surprise!! Surprise!!) and it turned out to be TWINS!! (Double surprise!). And I'm not even maternal!! Just fertile! :)

When they were born, I had a 5 year old, a 2 year old (*just* turned 2) and newborn twins who were preemie with breathing issues. I almost had a nervous breakdown. But I survived.

My kids are now almost 8, almost 5 and twins almost 3. They are getting more and more self-sufficient. The older 2 are in school. I make my oldest help me a lot. You get into a routine. I'm not going to say it's going to be easy, but it will be worth it, and it will be OK. And someday you'll be glad that they're all so close together and growing up close. My sister, who is 18 months younger than I, is my best girlfriend in all the world.

Good luck, and WELCOME!! Please join us!

Sofia




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Tue, 06-06-2006 - 2:49pm
My youngest two DSs are exactly the distance that your two are going to be. 17 mos. Logan was 8 mos. old when I (whoops!) got pregnant with Hayden. It's not bad at all. I'm home with them all day long and yes, Logan is at that toddler handful stage, but the baby sleeps a lot and doesn't require much hands-on except feeding and changing. Logan loves his little brother and brings me diapers and burp cloths when I ask for them. It gives him a chance to help out and feel like a Big Brother. Don't freak out, it'll be fun!!!!
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