Help with One Year Old!
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| Thu, 04-08-2004 - 8:25am |
Okay. My dd is just driving me batty. She will not play with her toys for longer than 2 mins...she won't even watch Seasame St or Animal Jam for longer than 3 mins. She is always clinging to me crying, wanting me to play with her.
Or READ to her!
The book thing is getting out of control. I am on the verge of hiding them....I almost think that the reading is not as good for her as we thought. It's just me providing entertainment for her (much like the tv would) and she gets to sit on my lap. She crawls at me all day dragging a book saying "This, this".... I cannot get ANYTHING done.
Help? Or is this just the way it is? Right now she is dragging an issue of "Food and Wine" towards me....she'll look at pictures of food I'll never cook and go "Mmmmmmm".
Goood lord.
Melissa

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Have you tried a varity of toys? Maybe diffrent activities that dont include books and so forth?
I am sure there are plenty of things you can introduce her to and see how it works....
Try these sites and see if there is anything you can do with her.
http://www.ivillage.com/topics/parenting/0,,166505,00.html
www.familyfun.com
http://www.parentsoup.com/tracker/toddlers/articles/0,,263921_264277,00.html
She has a ton of toys and I am careful to rotate them. She doesn't care for any of them, apparently. She has been clinging and whining for DAYS now. Dragging the books over, one after the other. I do read to her, all the time. I do get down on the floor and play with her, all the time. She's in her crib right now having a mental fit. I think that she's tired and needs to sleep.....maybe screwed up due to the time change?
Maybe I just have zero tolerance. I mean, am I supposed to play with her ALL day long? Is that my job as a sahm? What do other babies do? Because, forgive me for saying so, but, I don't want to play with her all day, non-stop. I think she should be able to entertain herself for small stretches of time at this point.
Am I wrong?
Melissa
No, I do not think you should play with her ALL day. Children at that age should at least be able to entertain themselves for a short while. You do need to get things done.
I think she will get over this stage and sooner or later not need you at all
I hear your pain!! I went this period as well. Tyler is still like this at times. All I can say is this too shall pass. I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you.
Tanya
I also wanted to tell you to be thrilled that she loves books so much. They learn so much that way. Both my kids loved books like that and they both learned their numbers (1-12) and alphabet by the time they were two. My oldest is 4 now and starting to read which is great because she is starting to read to my youngest. There are definitely benefits.
Good Luck!
Hey Melissa,
I don't know if anyone else suggested this or not, but I just recently joined a local Mom's group and they have LOTS of great activities for us to go to.
Yesterday, I sat on the floor and cried for about a 1/2 hour. I just couldn't take the whining anymore! God, sometimes I just feel that I am not cut out for this! I did feel better after the cry (you know, I can't really remember the last time I cried) and dd was just looking at me like I was a out of my mind....but at least SHE wasn't whining or crying!
I think the constant motion is killing me. I am 25 weeks pregnant and I'm not sleeping that well. Tiredness wrecks my patience. I am very scared of the next baby coming.
As far as the moms groups go, I am actually looking into two of them, but the "new member" activities are not till the end of the month. But we WILL be going. I love getting her out of the house, but lately, with the being tired and all, I just want to sit in the same room with her and just sit. That's why all the reading to and playing with was (is) driving me nuts. If I don't want to read or play, I literally have to run away from her and do something productive.
But, thanks for listening!
Melissa
Sometimes crying is a good way to get out frustration and not harmful to you or the child.
I cry sometimes, but I try not to do it in front of the kids, just breaks my 5 year olds heart when I do, he always have tissues for me
Hi,
I'm sure that being pregnant is adding to your stress!
I know that joining the moms group will make a big difference (hopefully!) in my day-to-day. I'm pretty nervous about making new friends, but it should be nice.
I just want to vent about a couple more things.... I just need to get it all out.
Part of the reason that I was sad yesterday is that I feel abandoned....esp. by my old friends. I used to hang out with a group of girls, all of us VERY close. Always there for the birthdays, weddings, deaths, etc. But they don't call me anymore. See, none of them have kids. They party and have fun every weekend. And when I say that they PARTY, I mean it! I used to like to go out for drinks after work on Friday, go out to the club, etc. Then I had the baby and you all know what THAT means! Even if I wasn't pregnant right now, I certainly couldn't spend a Saturday hungover in bed. But, was our whole friendship only based on partying? I didn't think so. I have a drawerful of "You are my Best Friend" cards to prove otherwise! So, I was feeling sad and lonely about that.
And the other thing. I felt like I had no one to talk to...everyone works or is busy, right? I didn't want to tell my husband about my crying fit, but he made some comments about me being "quiet" so I finally broke down (literally, again) and told him how I was feeling. Then he said the dreaded:
"Well, I think you have it pretty good. You should count your blessings."
I wanted to scream and nearly did.
Why can't I just be sad???? Am I not allowed? Am I supposed to stiffle every bad feeling with "At least I'm healthy and have a roof over my head and a husband that loves me."
I know that!!! I am sad DESPITE those things! I guess I should be glad that I am not on the street with ragamuffin children and a garbage-can dinner.
Man, I'm getting all hyped again just thinking about it! I could call my mom but she would say the "count your blessings" thing too.
Whew! I feel a little better. Aspen (dd) is sleeping and was very good this morning, actually. I am exhausted still. There is just no amount of sleep that would be enough. I can't sleep when she does because I don't fall asleep and she only naps for an hour, anyway.
Thanks again for listening. Let me know how to deal with the "count your blessings" thing.
Melissa
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