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| Sun, 08-06-2006 - 11:11pm |
I have a 14 yr. old step-daughter who refuses to do anything with her friends. I have offered on numerous occasions to take her to her friends but she would rather be with her father or stay in the house???
Leah

Gosh, I really don't have any advice. Being a teenager is SO hard, I remember. I think its great that she does want to hang out with her dad! I hope someone can give you some good advice.
Chrissy
Maybe she's just super shy?? I can see my DD Tessa being this way in 11 years. She is neurotically shy. You might want to talk to her and make sure nothing's going on, like kids picking on her or something. If she's not having peer issues, I wouldn't worry. I kind of hope my girls stay in the house when they're 14. I certainly don't want them taking after me at that age! LOL!!
BTW, welcome to the board & I hope you join us more.
Sofia
I was like this. I preferred my books to people. Maybe it's just how she is, I wouldn't force it. My mom forced alot of stuff on me and I really grew to resent it.
Perhaps a compromise? she can stay home if she likes but she needs to pick at least one event a week that she attends? This way she'll not feel like she's being forced into stuff all the time, plus maybe it will grab her attention and she'll start wanting to do more things on her own.
Can you share more information about her? Then maybe we could give some better advice. You say your her stepmom. Is this a recent divorce? Is she depressed? If she is sticking close to home I am guessing she is not involved in any activities which are harmful to her and maybe this isn't a bad thing.
Traci
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I was like that growing up... painfully shy, plus I had a severely low self esteem and thought no one liked me, so I sat at home all the time and kept to myself.
All I can say is don't push it... she'll have to get to a point on her own where she feels comfortable going out and doing things. Besides it may be a blessing in disguise with the things kids are doing nowadays anyway kwim?