Hey guys!! Could use a little imput!

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Hey guys!! Could use a little imput!
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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 7:52pm

I have posted in iVillage message boards before. I am new to this particular one but my hubby and I have been debating having a third child for a while. Both of us like the idea of having another child but not sure we like it enough to have another, and change our ideal family scematic if that makes sense. What I am looking for is those mom's that are debating the same dilemma or debated it and made their mind up FINALLY lol. We have been going back and forth for about 6 months now, we definately want to be sure that it is best for all of our family including our other two, (we have 1 boy and 1 girl.). Any input or comments would definately be helpful!

Christie :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 10-15-2001
Sat, 08-27-2011 - 8:23am
I've always heard you'll never regret having another child but you might regret not having another. That said we have 4 so I'm partial to bigger families and my 3rd is the sweetest kid ever. We always knew we wanted 3 but we wanted them close in age and after 2 miscarriages (2nd at 12 weeks) I was ready to just stay with our 2 and I'm so glad we had an oops. It does change the dynamic, you can't just each take a child but by the 3rd your more relaxed and confident and I enjoyed the baby stage a lot more than the other 2. So if you are on the fence I say go for it.
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Mon, 08-29-2011 - 10:37am

Thanks for your input, I agree with you on the regretting not having another. That's what I am worried about is that 5 years down the road I am gonna say I wish i had had one more.

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Registered: 09-07-2000
Mon, 08-29-2011 - 1:25pm
I've heard from my friends with 3+ that the jump from 2 to 3 isn't nearly as difficult as the jump from 1 to 2. I think if you're both talking about wanting a 3rd, then you should go for it! :)
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Tue, 08-30-2011 - 12:27pm

Kim makes a great point! It'd be a shame if you regret it later. I wish so much I could have just one more! I'd say go for it. It's a big change from 2 to 3 kids I've heard.

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Registered: 05-04-2011
Tue, 08-30-2011 - 12:36pm

I agree with the pps -- if you're both seriously considering it, you should probably just do it!

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Wed, 08-31-2011 - 11:14am

Haha Yes very use to running around like a chicken with my head cut off! That is definately in the job description for mommy! Hehe. I have heard the transition was easier from 2 to 3 than 1 to 2 from my mom as well, although there is 8 years between my brother and me and 9 between my sister and me so my mom had LOTS of help. I think it would be easier for me as well cause we are thinking Jan. so then by the time I had the baby my oldest would have started kindergarden! Thanks everyone, it's really nice to have people to talk to about this. My hubby and I dont really feel it's appropriate to talk to people we know about our considerations (obvious other then my mom) because we don't like people to know when we are trying due to the "are you pregnant yet?" questions constantly.

Christie

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Registered: 10-15-2001
Wed, 08-31-2011 - 11:45am
That is how ours are spaced, my oldest was just starting K when #3 was born and it has been nice. Especially only having the 2 at home during the newborn stage. I thought with a 3 1/2 year gap between 2 and 3 they wouldn't play together but the older ones really help out and enjoy doing things with the younger ones. The little guy is still mostly in the way when they play but the older 3 do lots of things together.
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Wed, 08-31-2011 - 1:03pm

That's awesome!