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| Mon, 06-13-2005 - 6:51pm |
Hi everyone;
My name is Heather. I am a SAHM to 3 boys. Connor is 7, Cameron is 5 1/2 and Carter will be 4 on July 5th. I have been home for 4 years. I was wondering if anyone have pangs to go back to work? I am struggling with this all the time. I sometimes love being here and then other times hate it. Does that sound totally horrible? I seem to be on an emotional rollercoster that I can't get off. My DH totally supports me being at home yet some days he is not that supportive on the mommy needing some time front. He seems to work late all the time and nights when he isn't working it's softball. Ok, I am rambling now...lol. I get so jealous of my friends that work and yet I am not really sure it's what I want. How do I get beyond this up and down feeling? I am in a horrible rut! Help!
Heather

Hi Heather,
I am not having these feeling but wanted to share with you a different point of view. Lets just say that I am not a big fan of daycare, but as a former childcare worker and a former pre-k teacher I will tell you that from what I saw ages 3 1/2 and up can thrive in a very good partime preschool. What kind of work did you do before?
I do beleive in a good balance and it is just my opinion that at least one parent should be there to send the kids off to school and one for when they get home.
You can always come here and let off some steam! lol We are pretty good with that! lol
Hi,
Thanks for the welcome. I have been having some really bad days lately and I think it derives from my "not" doing enough for myself.
Last night I was was lurking on the SAHM/WOHM debate board and realized I really don't want to go back to work. I mean...my kids will all be in school full time by fall of 2006. My oldest will be in 2nd grade this fall and my middle son will be in full day kindergarten and my youngest will be in prek in the afternoons.
I truly want to be home with them before, during and after school and during the summer. I also have a problem with depression and admit that I went off my meds...that is a no-no and probably a good explanation of why I have been riding this roller coaster lately. So, I am going to call my Dr today and get a refill on my meds and do a little focusing on me and demand from my DH that I get more time for me.
I plan on hanging around if that is ok with you ladies! I am glad I found this board.
Heather
Well I never before beleived the debate boards had any use...until now! lol
Good for you for calling your Dr and realizing what was going on
Well, I was just reading the messages and they are so adversarial (sp?). And when it really comes down to it I don't want the stress of working outside the home as well as I don't want my kids in after school care or in summer camp. I want them to be kids...have free play and just be themselves. I realize that I am fortunate that I can be home with them. Thanks again for the welcome!
Just a bit more about me. We live in Maryland. And my DH is an IT contractor for the government which has it's own stresses as his company's contract is up for re-compete which means they could lose it or get a renewal. Keep your fingers crossed for a renewal!
Heather
Hi Heather, Welcome to the board! I am glad you'll be sticking around. I will definitely keep my fingers crossed for your dh. I am Olivia married to Steban for 10 years. SAHM for 1 year to Aston (7 months), Lexus (8) and Mercedes (12). We live in Texas.
Olivia
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