How can I make my husband understand...
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|Wed, 04-02-2003 - 2:32pm|
I've been on Zoloft and it's helped and I have a clear understanding of my situation and understand that I am stressed, bored and unhappy, but I also know I can give my son good care and am preparing him for preschool later this year. But lately my son has been so hard to handle. I am completely drained, yet my husband makes comments like "You have it made. You can do whatever you want." And "You've been on a two year vacation."
Yesterday my 2.4 year-old had a screaming and crying fit that went on for hours and started up again this morning. I called my husband at work, he only works about two or three minutes away, and when I told him I was going to lose it, I was going to hit him or just curl up in a fetal position. He told me to "get a babysitter." He’s been about this helpful through my whole transition for working woman, to trying to work at home and raise our kid. There are many issues involved but right now I am mainly concerned with the fact that I am an emotional zombie and need some help and support and I clearly can't turn to him for it and he can't understand why I need some help and how his attitude is dooming our relationship.
Is there any concise articles, because he's not much of a reader, which will explain to him how difficult it can be to be the person responsible for the care and well being of a child with no one to turn to, rely on or even offer a shoulder to cry on? Couple's therapy, me telling him bluntly and even video taping my son's fit haven't seemed to get the point across to him that I am tired, but that doesn't mean I don't love my son.
I have decided to take a spa vacation without the two so my husband can see just how easy it is to deal with a kid all day by yourself, but that won't happen for at least another month.
I just need for my husband to see in black and white by some other, hopefully authoritative source, that taking care of a child can be very overwhelming.
And, yes, I have NO plans to have any further children with this man, and yes, divorce is an option I am actively looking into.