How did you meet your DH/SO?

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How did you meet your DH/SO?
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 11:21am

How did you all meet your DH/SO and how long have you been together/married?

I met mine at college, dated for 5 months, engaged for 5 months, been married for 5 years. :)

jenfa

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:01pm

Well, I'll try to keep this short, but if you've read my past posts, you'll know that's almost impossible...hehe.

I met my dh, Jeff, in college in 1991 just before I was going to graduate. We dated about a month before I graduated and then moved home 2 hours south of the college town. We kept dating 5 more months, but the distance was too much for me, and since I was young and stupid, I had my eye on another guy in a short time after moving home. I ended up marrying that guy, but we divorced after 6 1/ 2 years. Soon after that divorce (my 1st dh and I remained good friends, acutally), I decided to look up a few people from my past just to see how life had turned out for them. I found Jeff through the college alumni website and emailed him a short note (Is this you? How are you? etc.) He emailed back just about the same message. That was in March, 2000. By September, I had flown from TX to NM to visit him for the first time, not having seen him since July, 1992...8 years. Needless to say, we were both incredibly nervous. He had not married and didn't have any kids. After that visit and subsequent visits and a long distance courtship for a year (I was more mature and able to handle it this time), I moved out to NM to be with him, and he proposed about 5 months later. This July, we'll be married 3 years. Hard to believe we started out 14 years ago. He said, when we began to get serious, that he believed the reason he never married despite a few pretty serious relationships since me in college was b/c he felt in his heart I would somehow come along back into his life again someday.

I suppose I just had to go through my "stupid phase" to realize that what I had in front of me all those years ago was exactly what I was looking for in a marriage partner. Like nowyzwifey, I guess I'm not stupid after all. It just took awhile to get to that realization...hehe. And, on a side note (you see how I go on)...I never wanted children b/4 I thought about being married to Jeff...for me, it was all about WHO would be my children's father...and it never once crossed my mind that I shouldn't have children with Jeff...it was like breathing...it was just meant to be. I would never have had children with my first dh...I would have been raising practically by myself and would have recieved pretty much no help. I also wouldn't have had the choice to stay home...even though I'm making the choice to go back to work, it's a choice, not a must. It wouldn't have been that way with the 1st dh. I am very blessed to have what I have at this point in my life. Sometimes looking back can really help you realize what is really important.

Debbie

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:09pm

HOw I met my husband was definatly bittersweet.

In April of 2003 I lost my father unexpectedly to a heart attack. He and my mom had just celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary. This was the second time she was widowed (once when she was 21) My parents had a huge house with lots of land so I decided to move back home with her to take care of her and the house. She had a computer so in October I joined eHarmony, and filled out my profile. At eHarmony the profile was free, but in order to talk to people you had to pay a fee. Well being the poor college student that I was I didnt pay. The end of October I got an email that said I got a 3 month free activation fee (I didnt have to pay to talk YIPPY) about 2 days later I was matched with Matt. We began talking and then carried our conversations to personal email and then the phone. I was taken with him immediately, and fell instantly in love. We met in November and he moved from Missouri to Arkansas in March. We were married in May and found out we were pregnant in June. This also to our surprise since I was told it would be hard to conceive ( I have endometriosis and had an ovary removed) and during his last marriage he was told by his doctor that his sperm count was to low to ever have children. Mackenzie Layne was born January 28th and Matt and I are about to celebrate our one year anniversary May 29th. So although I lost my father and it broke my heart... I know that God and my dad were watching out for me and brought Matt into my life.

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:32pm
We met while working for Harrahs in Lake Tahoe. We got engaged after 1.4 yrs and married 2 months after that. Almost been married 4 yrs now.

Sarah

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:48pm
All these stories are so sweet. I feel blah about mine now

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:56pm

Steban and I met in 1991 at Wyatt's Cafeteria (we were both working there at the time). On my first day at work I was there early watching video tapes pertaining to the job and he got there early too cause he had to ride the bus (no car). It was raining out so he was all wet, but we just kept looking at each other. I kept thinking "this guy is sooo cute and he looks good wet...lol:)" Well later that day he asked me if I liked the band the Scorpions and I said yes. He said he had an extra ticket if I would like to go and of course I said yes. I thought he was just being nice and selling me this extra ticket but it turned out to be a date. Needless to say he had no tickets, he just wanted to make sure that I wanted to go first than he bought them. I did not know this till a few years later. Anyway, we have been together for 13 years, married for 10 years next month.

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 9:50pm

DH and I met in a childrens home when I was a sophmore in high school and we've been together ever since. We never really dated since it wasn't allowed, but we married a week after he turned 18 and had our first little angel 12 months later!


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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 10:03pm
My younger sister liked my dh's best friend and so she set me up with Michael so we could go out on a double date. I thought he was a dork on that first date, but we went out again a few days later and made out for 30 mins at the end of the night. We were inseprable after that, lol! We got engaged 6 mos later and married 8 mos after our engagement. June 4 will be our 6th anniversary!
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 10:44pm
Kind of a long, but funny story. He was a friend of a guy I dated the year before meeting my dh. (Dh actually helped the guy I was dating to pick out a Christmas present for me!) Met Dh a year later at a party. He was dating a friend of friend who dated the guy I mentioned the previous year (all in college.) He broke up with his girlfriend a few months after I met him. We became good friends and it went from there. We dated 6 years (wanted to graduate from college and get jobs before getting married)and we will be married 7 years this June. Oh, and the guy I dated the year before him, who I first mentioned, he's been Dh's best friend and married my best friend two months after we got married.
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 10:49pm
I remember you writing this before on another post.
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Wed, 04-13-2005 - 1:13am

We did live near South Lake Tahoe. Well I rented there but we bought in Gardnerville, Nv which was on the other side of the mountain about 20 minutes away. We moved 3 years ago when dh lost his job and a new one brought us to So Cal. I miss it there.


I have never skied but I did snowboard a few times. I figured since I was there I had to try it. I even took my board up when we went up a couple weeks ago but there were 50 mph winds the day we were going to go and that would not have been fun. I am not any good but I could get down the mountain. Going down Heavenly is beautiful you are looking and the lake and it is just great. I am just not very athletic. Maybe I will get out next year. We might take Maggie out to Big Bear and see how she does.

Sarah