How do I know when I am ready?

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Registered: 08-01-2006
How do I know when I am ready?
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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 5:38pm
I was wondering if any of you moms out there of more than one child can share with me how you knew you were ready to try for child number 2. My husband has been ready since our baby boy was born, and I think I am now finally almost ready. We have an 8 mo. old son, and he is the love of my life. I feel like no matter what his age, it will be challenging to add another child to our family. The challenge is the only thing that worries me about having another child. Do you have any comments about the age difference our children will be (probably about 18 - 20 months apart), and the challenges this will offer us? I just would love to hear from other moms what they know.
Thanks!

Cathy
Mom of 2 wonderful boys
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Registered: 12-01-2005
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 5:51pm
I have 5 kids my 2 oldest boys are 27 months apart, and I think 2 years is about perfect. Me and my sister are only 13 months apart and she has always felt like I came along and took her mom away, but then to many years apart and they have a hard time being playmates. I seriously wouldn't consider less than 24 months or more than 36 months apart when having siblings. It is also better for your recuperation time to wait at least 2 years between each child.

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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 10:45am

Makynna was a suprise!

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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 10:57am
we started for our daughter when my son was 17 mths old so they are 2yers and 3mths apart
they are the best of friends but he got to have his own time with us,we had him off the bottle and paci b4 she came,he was very sweet with her...but whatever age you choose to have them apart will be the best for you,b/c i've never heard a mom say this is the worst age difference ever, everyone likes the age that they choose to have thier children apart.
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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 11:08am
I am pregnant right now.
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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 2:09pm

we have 4 kids. Amber and Jared are 3 1/2 years a part, which worked out really nice Amber was old enoght that she was able to entartain herself when I took care of Jared. She was also able to help. Jared and Spenser are 6 years apart, I would not have waited that long if I could have but money was to tight for another baby. It was like starting all over. But on the plus side again the older two didn't need me so much. Then theres Jack, who was born two weeks after Spenser 2nd birthday. We were not planing on having any more, but God saw fit to blesse us with him. Its been hard, Spenser is a tyipcal 2 year old running all over wanting me to sit and play or read to him. Also we ended up with the three boys having there birthdays close. Jared is may 19th Spenser id Apirl 8th And Jacks is April 20th. Spring is going to be very very busy when you throw in Easter. My SIl also has three spaced about the same but hers have the b-days spread out. At lest are boys always have someone to play with at family functions.

What it really comes down to thow is that when your ready you'll know it and the pros and cons of age drifrance won't really matter to you at that point.

good luck

Angela

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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 3:04pm

My thoughts are going to be vague.