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How do I stop this?
| Fri, 08-19-2005 - 1:28pm |
I have a question for you ladies.
Lately dd has been refusing to sleep in her room, so she has been falling asleep in our bed with dh, and when I go to bed, I transfer her to her room. She wakes up a short time later, and is so upset that she cries and gags and throws up all over her bed (or us, if she made it that far into our room) Once she throws up, she crawls in our bed and falls asleep for the night.
How do I get her to stop puking, and sleep in her own room? I know the obvious answer could be to let her sleep in our room, which I dont mind, but dh doesnt like it. Its getting frusterating having to change the bedding every night, and deal with dh's temper tantrums lol. Any advise?

I'm going through the same exact thing right now.
Hey ladies! I am no help since we practiced AP, but there is a new sleep training board on ivillage and I bet they can help you there.
Good luck!
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-pssleepprob
I think you and your dh need to talk and agree on what to do and do it.
Good luck.
We had been having major problems with Hannah trying to get her to go to sleep in her bed and stay there. I finally figured out that she 1) HATES her mattress, and 2) is scared of the dark. I'm nervous about putting a night light in the room for her because I know she would play with it, so I've been leaving the bathroom light on and cracking the door open. Also she's been sleeping with Natalie in her bed (which is soooo comfortable). Anyway she seems to be sleeping better.
With Natalie, when I moved her out of her baby bed, I put a twin mattress on the floor and put the baby gate up at the door. She had her favorite stuffed animals and blankets, and I didn't have to worry if she fell out of bed LOL.
Also if you try a bedtime routine it really helps. Play really hard for an hour or so, then give her a warm bath (to relax, not play), then dress for bed and read a couple of bedtime stories. You might also try rocking her just for a few minutes. When you put her to bed, for the first few nights try singing and rubbing/patting her back or tummy until she's almost asleep (each night after that slowly decrease the amount of time you spend doing that).
HTH!
Because I'm new here, I don't know how old your daughter is - and, indeed, if this behaviour is her choice. But one thing is clear - this behaviour is working for her or she wouldn't do it.
I believe that first, she must be told that she's a big girl and doesn't need your bed anymore. One of the previous posters gave some great suggestions for a settling routine into her own bed. And I think the key here is for consistency in how you do this. After you tell her how it will be, on no occaision is she allowed into your bed. Also, make sure that her days and evenings have consistant routine.
If the vomiting is not her *choice*, then I'd clean the sheets and continue the routine faithfully.
However, if she's *choosing* to vomit in her bed, then tell her that if she does it, she'll have to stay in it. (At least for 15 or 20 mins - long enough for her to suffer the consequences of her own behaviour). Yes, it'll be disgusting for the short term, but I think that she will dislike it so much that she'll stop doing it.
You need to call the "Sleep Fairy" to help...lol.
Sorry no advice here, never had to go through anything like this, but wanted to offer BIG ((((HUGS)))) TO BOTH OF YOU!!! Good luck with whatever you try and keep us posted.
Olivia
&nbs