How do you divide labor with DH?

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How do you divide labor with DH?
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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 6:30pm

I believe taking care of the children is more than a full time job, sans cleaning, cooking, etc... those are just icing on the cake if I can get to them.

Who handles what in your house? How do you divide labor?

Do you believe or DH believe that minding the children takes all your effort or are you a regular Martha Stewart (minus the felony)?

DH seems to think I should handle most of the housework because I'm a homemaker. I said I was a homemaker before the kids came along and now my job is SAHM. I need lots of help around here!

Thanks!

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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 8:18pm
We spilt everything down the middle when he is home.
He is away for 30 days, but when home he watches the kids, cleans, tries to cook and do laundry (if I let him

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 12:40am

My DH is gone




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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 5:06pm

I'm in your husbands line of thinking. He works outside the home, and my job is the home, and child raising. That being said, I *don't* go to his office and dump empty soda cans everywhere, leave dirty clothes on the floor, and generally mess it up. He doesn't then come into my "office" and do that to me. He cleans up his own messes, and doesn't go making new ones for me. He also does the vacuuming, but mostly because the things on the floor bother him long before they bother me.

He is in charge of yard, auto, and outside house maintainence. I embrace the femininity of my inner housewife. I stand firmly behind my royalty: I'm Queen of the castle I reign supreme, if you don't agree starve nekkid!

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 5:49pm

I am very spoiled. Despite his obscene work schedule, my DH helps me almost 50/50. He does all the yard work and pays the bills, and does much of the cooking. If he cooks, I clean up and vice versa. He vacuums, picks up and does the bathrooms also. I do all these things, too. The one thing I don't let him TOUCH is the laundry. He lost that privilege when I was on bedrest with my twin pregnancy, and he ruined too many loads by shrinking things & turning stuff pink. Other than that, he helps me all the time.

I know he works outside the home, but he also lives here, and he fathered these 4 children, so he can help out when he's here. It's a balance and a partnership. As he says, we have to be 2 horses pulling in the same direction.

Of course, there are exceptions. If he's sick, or very, very tired, I take over. The same goes for him with me.

Good luck to you!

Sofia




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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 9:48pm

Well besides my fulltime job as a sahm, I also homeschool my children. If I had a larger house I would probably have Dh do more around here but it is not much effort to clean so I do most of the cleaning. Cooking happens to be a stress reliever for me and is something I truly enjoy so most days I do that as well. Dh does the yard work, takes out the trash, and starts a load of laundry every morning. Never has he once refused though to do more if I need it, and when he is home childcare is 50/50.


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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 9:52pm

I would say, really, we are about a 50/50 household.


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