How has being a mom changed you?

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Registered: 03-30-2003
How has being a mom changed you?
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Mon, 02-28-2005 - 8:47am

I am not talking about the physical changes, but the core changes to you.

For example:

I caught my finger in a door this weekend and shredded it. Nasty cuts and bruises. They wouldn't accept me at the urgent care place because the damage looked too severe for them to handle. I went to the emergency room.

Ends up that I have no tendon damage and there are no bones broken.

Although I am in serious pain (and it looks nasty), I keep thinking how lucky I am that the damage wasn't more severe. I keep thanking G-d that a bone wasn't broken and the tendon didn't severe.

And it hits me that before I had my son, I would be thinking "Oh my, it could have been worse" also, but not in the thank goodness way....it would have been in the OH MY way and I would be worrying about all the possible bad things. Understand?

I have changed from an half-empty person to a half-full person.

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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 9:23am

Isn't it funny how that happens?
I have changed in so many ways.......... What was hardest on me was the fact that I was only 20 when I had my 1st. None of my friends were going through what I was, and they couldn't understand what/how I was feeling. As a result I lost a lot of long time friends, and the ones that I still have I don't think we will ever have the closeness that we once shared. Some people just don't get it?
I also went from never wanting to be at home - to becoming somewhat of a house hermit!

Corinne
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 12:11pm

I'm less involved with myself. I'm focused on my son' health and well being. It has definitely changed me for the better.

Rona
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 1:40pm

I was always a caring person I think...and worl events have always effected me. But after having my children I feel like world events really weigh heavily on me now.


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Registered: 03-01-2005
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 2:54pm
Yup.
Its just not about you anymore, is it?
I never used to understand why some Moms cut off their hair and wear unflattering but comfortable clothes. I thought that had to do with losing self-esteem...now I know. Priorities change. When you could be/should be/have to be spending time with your little people, does spending 20 minutes blowing out your hair really make sense? If your fave sweater is going to get juice spilled on it, why wear it? Another thing I didn't know though, is that spilling juice, even on my favourite sweater, is OK too. Many of the things that seemed so important before 2 years ago, when I had my girl, seem so insignificant now, I can barely remember how it felt to care about them. All my care seems (happily) wrapped up in someone else!
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 2:54pm
I found the little kid in me again. That's really big for me (and the best change) because I tend to be such a serious person, bit of a perfectionist. I'll dance around silly with my ds (3), sing out loud his and my songs, and other stuff. I also appreciate little things more, but that's also because of life events like people close to me dying over the past few years. In addition, I don't mind once in a while going to the store with no make-up on or my hair not done. I don't do all of the housework each week which is fine because the time is better spent playing with my children. They are only little for such a short time. Lastly, I don't talk on the phone much any more. It's either because I am too busy, too tired, have nothing to say other that what my kids are up to (which gets old for some people), or just don't feel like it. Wow! Having children has really changed me a lot.
Andrea