How much does your DH ...
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| Sat, 09-10-2005 - 11:00am |
(or working partner) help out around the house since you are staying home? When I worked, my DH did a lot to help out. He washed clothes, helped with dishes, and helped with the kids, etc. Now he might occassionally help with the dinner dishes.
I know I should take on more of the house work now. I wanted to quit work because I couldn't keep up with the house and kids, so I was prepared for more housework. It just seems like after I've been cleaning all day, taking DS out to play, and running errands, I'm tired at night too, but I still have to get DS#1's homework done with him, cook supper, clean up supper, and get them both bathed and to bed. I feel really guilty for asking DH to help since he does have a really stressful job, and he's always so tired when he comes home, but it seems like I never have any down time.
So, how much help do you get? Am I being unreasonable?


Andrea
SAHM to ds 3.5 and dd 13 mos. Married 7 yrs.
I dont think you are being unreasonable at all to want help around the house and with the kids. My dh does quiet a bit. He likes cooking, so he does most of the cooking, we both do the dishes. He vaccums, and I dust. I do most of the laundry, but I am not fond of the way he does it lol. He also helps alot with our dd, especially now that I'm pregnant and get tired easily.
Lesley
My Dh helps out a lot, especially for the crazy hours he works. When he works nights he gets up and takes the boys outside to give me a break. This is when he also takes 30 minutes or so to do some yard work. That is where I need him most since our house is small square footage wise but we have a HUGE yard.
When he works days he also takes the boys outside to play and is in charge or any maintenace I need like changing filters and such. He also does the dishes, bathes the kids and reads them a bedtime story. I normally never have anything to complain about :)
I think it helped that I let my Dh know from the beginning that I was his equal in every way. I have a say with everything. Staying at home does not make me his inferior. Once in our early years together after our second was born he asked me what I did all day...so I showed him. I handed him the baby and walked out the door for the rest of the day. He has never asked that question again! lol
My dh is a great dad and loves to spend time with our kids.