Husband Cheated
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| Fri, 03-16-2007 - 3:55pm |
I really need all the help I can get right now. The closest friend I have is my sister but I really do not want to put her in the middle of this. The past couple of weeks things have been really tense in my house. It seemed like no matter what I did or said I was wrong somehow. DH has started fights and accused me of many things. I found out today that he had an affair with another woman. It was about 3 years ago when it happened. I was pregnant at the time with our son. The son that took 4 years of IVF treatments to conceive. I feel so numb. My emotions are all over the place and I have no idea what to think or feel. I love my husband very much. I am not perfect that is for sure and I have had my share of mistakes and we have gotten past it but I am not sure how to deal with this. It was a one time thing - he called it a last fling, like having our son was going to kill him or something. Part of me wants to just hold him and be told that it is all going to be alright and the other part of me wants to just beat and hate him. Is this something we can get past, can our marriage survive this? My head hurts so bad from thinking and crying all day. I tried to lay down with the baby at nap time but everytime I closed my eyes I had this vision of my husband with the other person, not that I know who she is. If anyone can shead some light I would be ever so greatful.
Thank You
Julie

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This is a hard one!!! I know people who have been able to overcome infidelity and have a better marriage now b/c of it. I, personally, don't know if I could get over something like that. Especially being pregnant that would devestate me.
Definitely counselling and see if you can both move on from it. Lot of talking, lots of crying, lots of yelling (I am sure).
I just believe that trust is THE most important thing in a marriage and without it you have nothing. I can't imagine feeling worried every time my partner left the house that he would be with someone else - that would eat me alive.
I hope it all works out for you.
Julie
Dh and I had to deal with 4 years of infertility treatments
4yrs ttc
2
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