I am so jealous of sil, it makes me sick

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I am so jealous of sil, it makes me sick
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Thu, 01-20-2005 - 4:19pm

My sil and her dh just finished building thier "dream home" we finally saw it, and it is amazing. We bought a townhouse a few months ago, and did full renos and it looks really good...or so I thought until I saw hers. It's huge, heated floors, all the furniture is new, she got rid of all thier other furniture. She even paid someone to come in and organize thier closets. I can't even begin to describe the kitchen...how much $$$ does her husband make??? She only works 2 days a week, and has a nanny come in a few times a week to watch the kids, and cook and clean. aarrggghhhh, I hate being green with envy! What did dh & I do wrong! lol, my dh keeps saying to me "at least we have our health," and my personal fav is "we did our house ourselves, with love" gag!!! I know he's right, but I really need to win the lottery!

Lesley

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Thu, 01-20-2005 - 4:29pm

I hear ya Lesley LOL


The lottery here in TX is up to 54 million on Saturday... my dad keeps saying "someone has to win it... might as well be ME!"


 

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Thu, 01-20-2005 - 4:36pm

I feel your pain, lol!

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Thu, 01-20-2005 - 8:33pm
I know exactly what you mean! My sister and her husband are building a new home, getting new furniture, etc... She was complaining about some closing costs, they were going to be about $6,000, and she was freaking out. Her husband, (my BIL) told her to relax because he makes that in one day and he would take care of that! I was like great, $6,000 in one day, we dont even make that in a month! O well, i'm not that jealous because he works 24/7 and my sister and him don't really have a relationship. Im just lucky to have my wonderful DH and son :)
kate

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Thu, 01-20-2005 - 9:58pm
I'm new to this board so first I wanted to say hello. I wanted to say that the last post was pretty accurate. They may have money but if you look closer you may realize that there life may be nothing to be jelous of. Me and my older sister are sahms with 2 children each. Our husbands work at the same company and hers earns almost twice as much as mine. Not because he makes more but because he works incredible amounts of overtime. Problem is they make bad financial decisions and pay twice as much for things than we do because of interest. So they only look better off on tax forms. Her husband is never home and when he is he is grumpy because he is so tired and cannot relate to her and her children. They yell, scream, and fight all day and the kids see it. He never helps with the house or the kids. He is the type that babysits his own kids. My husband however helps all the time with the kids they hang on him from the minute he comes in the door. He takes them to the doctors when needed and runs most of the errens so that I don't have to drag the kids out if I do not want to. So she has more money but I would not trade lives for anything. My life is richer than hers. Alot of families that have money have it at the sacrifice of other important aspects of there life.
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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 7:51am
I agree big time. I had a great job and lots of money. I gave it all up when baby Braydon became deathly ill. I dont regret it and I am so lucky to still have my baby. We bought our house almost 9 yrs ago. Its paid for now. My childhood friend in MO ( I live in PA) emails and sends pics of her 85,000.00 home she bought a couple months ago. I hear about the brand new truck, the brand new van. The pure breed dogs, the choppers etc. She's a sahm that brags all the time. All the kids are in school so now she says she shops all the time. Her DH is partners with dad in Blown Insulation business. Thing is in 2003 she got the big refund bc DH only made 23,000. Now they live like kings. But she slips up and complains he's never home, her SILs dont like her, her MIL doesnt like her and her stepson has adh (?) and hates her and destroyed their last apartment. My Dh is my best friend. He does housework, he works 40 hours a week, he works on our house and cars. Our kids love him. We have it good, just not alot of money now. I get green believe me, I do. Sometimes it takes DH to calm me down. But in the end, I reached my goal. I have 3 beautiful kids, a great DH and a second chance with Braydon. Eileen
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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 10:08am

Boy do I understand, here I am a single mom struggling to even have a two bedroom apartment and my brother just moved into a HUGE southern home that was just built. "It's a beautiful house" is a total under statement. But soon at least I will be living in it for 5 days per week.


He also has 10 acres and part of a lake on his property.


Funny thing is he still says someone pinch me because he can't believe it is his house.





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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 11:47am

Have to agree with every one on this one, I'd much rather have nothing but DH and the kids than have everything and no one. My Uncle in CA hates his life & himself. He has a ton of money, but no wife, no kids, no relationships. He is watching his parents age & die with nothing but a job he hates and money. My father on the other hand, has no money, no retirement, no wife (because my mom is a waco), doesn't even own a house, but has 3 kids & 9 grand children. He couldn't be happier and wouldn't change things if he could. Sometimes it's hard to overlook the big house and the money, but when you really get down to it, there are more important things in life.

Sometimes I wonder (as in fiddler on the roof) if it would ruin some great plan if I were a wealthy....

Jody

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 1:12pm
If we live life wishing we had what others have then we would never have time to be thankful for what we have ourselves.
There will always be someone who has more or better things then us.
I think it is normal to wish and be jealous, but then its time to get over it and be happy with what we have.
Your husband is right, you have your health, your love and your family.





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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 8:34pm

I know how you feel. My dh works and makes good money.... We have a new vehicle plus 2 others and own our own place..though its a crappy place...LOL! We get things we need and a bit more. We are currently wanting a new place.....but have to wait to get somethings paid for. But the man up the road does NOT work...he draws a check and just bought a brand new mobile home...and has brand new Harley... Plus bought new homes for both of his kids...How does he do it?? Beats me! But I wouldn't trade my life for his. He cheats on his wife all the time.....plus he has both kids living right under his nose.. But I am glad I am not him and have his stuff...Because I am sure he is in debt way up to his ass.. and probably don't "own" anything besides the land he lives on. I have my dh who don't cheat on me..and who allows me to stay at home... and I am happy with that. I do get jealous of people sometimes... But after I stand back and take a real good luck at them...I am thankful that I am NOT them. I don't mean to tell you what to do... but instead of complaining to your dh about what you don't have...I would thank him for working and giving you what you do have. I am sure it don't make him feel great when you complain about it. I am SURE you are a lot more richer than your SIL will EVER be. You may not see that now...but you will later in life.

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Christy

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 8:53pm
I wanted to say hi! I have not seen you around the board in a while. I am glad to see a post from you.

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