I am so scared...
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I am so scared...
| Wed, 04-18-2007 - 12:51pm |
Ladies.. I don't want to send Roslyn to school next year. I am so scared from all these shootings and all this violence.
| Wed, 04-18-2007 - 12:51pm |
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Kel,
No, you're not crazy or over-protective. A lot of parents homeschool their children for this and many other reasons. You should talk with Desiree, I know she homeschools. I'm betting if you looked into it, you'd find an entire network of homeschooling families right in your area. They get together and go on field trips, form sports teams, some even get together for lessons. There are plenty of friend making and lonly combating oppertunities, because you aren't the ONLY one homeschooling (if you so choose) KWIM?
It does make me nervous, and sad for what society is becomming. You don't hear much of this sort on the preschool/elementary level, but middle school and high school are tough. Then again, the trip from your house TO the school buildings is tough. You're more likely to be involved in a life ending car accident than life ending altercation by a crazy person at school. Shootings like this are a tragedy, and they make the news in such large proportions because it's not the norm. It's out of the ordinary, most days millions of kids across the country go to school with only
(((hugs))) I don't think you're crazy or over protective. You're a good mom!! I'm at the stage where I just want to get rid of them a few hours a week, but I know I'll miss them tons when they're at preschool. (Aryc's not eligible until this Fall, and I'm freaking a little already, too.) The only thing that keeps going through my head in this matter is that whatever happens was supposed to happen. It was part of The Plan, if you will.
Anyway, I'm not very eloquent today, but just wanted to let you know that you're not alone in those feelings. I hope you feel better. :)
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Well said, Kate.
I'd love to homeschool, but the boys need therapy that I can't give them, or pay for.
Kate, I could totally hug you.
I think about this nearly everyday along with a thousand other reasons that I'm terrified to raise a child in today's world. It's not over-protectiveness nor is it irrational...unfortunately it comes with the territory though and we'll have to always fight the instinct versus the norm as mothers.
I breathe slight sigh of relief since we've moved to a small, rural community where there is virtually zero crime. (seriously, I never hear sirens or of anything more than a fender bender or vandals) However, there is 1 particular demographic that makes me a bit nervous in the school system we do have.
Everytime I mention homeschooling to DH he's completely against it for all the mainstream reasons. Frankly, until I had children and after working with HS families in one of the programs I ran @ the Y pre-Mahri...I wasn't a HS advocate either! LOL Anyway, I think now that it's a wonderful thing if there is a supportive group in your area for it and you feel you would be a good teacher for Ros. (Which, I'm sure you would be!)
Until the day comes, I too look at things similar to Kat...there's a plan (non-religious) and what happens in life is part of it. On the other end of that though, terrible scenarios play in my head more often than not about things that could happen to Mahri and what I'd do about them. Ugh!
Motherhood is SO hard! LOL
I agree with pp. I would homeschool in a heart beat if I thought I'd be any good at! There is a good program in Idaho called K-12...don't know if it is a national thing. From what I understand it is the same curriculum as the public school.
I guess the thing I worry about the most is the whole bully thing. How do you explain to a 5 year old that comes home crying that she has to go back the next day? Bullies are in every grade, every day of school. And the parents and school faculty don't have the balls (sorry, I get fired up) to deal with these little punks. If you look at the school shootings or the majority of mass shootings in this country, the suspects were kids that were picked on/loners/depressed. That is what I don't understand. These shootings have become and epidemic and the schools, police, and parents are more PC than ever because they don't want to offend, falsely accuse, or step on toes. The whole thing just ticks me off! I am an ex-cop and my mentor in high school was my SRO (school resource officer). He is a wealth of information and I still talk to him. It is truly shocking to hear how much my high school has changed in the last 8 years! Metal detectors, pat downs, backpack searches, car searches...and this is at a high school that was nic named "cow pie high"! It concerns me so much that I made the decision years ago to go back to school and finish up my BA and got through the academy here so I can hopefully become a SRO at the high school. Don't get me wrong, it is not to go in and bust heads...just to be more of a counselor with a little power to actually do something! There is an article that was in the paper a few months ago stating that there are going to be SRO's in the elementary schools! That is scary! Ok, I got that off my chest...I'm sorry if I came off really harsh or offended anyone. But these are my kids and as my mom puts it "If we don't protect them, who will?".
Tara
I don't think your being over-protective at all!
Totally normal fears. I am like that. Every time something happens I just say extra prayers for my three. I have a daily prayer and I have been sying since the day my son was born. God, please place your protective hand over them and keep them safe. Every time my babies walk out of the house, I say this.
I don't know if you are a praying person or believe in God but for me to handle this and not loose it. I HAVE to put all my faith the He will keep my children safe. If something happens to anyone of them then I know it was meant to be. All my children have given me so much in their short little lives and everyday I have with them is an even more blessing then it was the day before. This makes me cry to type out. Oh, God forbid anything happen to my beautiful children but I can't live with that fear daily. For us, it's all in Gods hands.
After 9/11 and how I hung onto them for dear life and then realizing that I had to stop, I had to find a way to deal with these fears and I just gave it to God.
Chelle
Hi! (I'm new here).
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