I cant live this way anymore, advice
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| Tue, 09-12-2006 - 3:26pm |
Hi ladies,
I dont post here often I am more of a lurker but I could really use some advice! I am a SAHM to my 1 year old daughter Danielle. She is such a joy, but is getting into everything and starting to walk, and she is at times very clingy too. I am still breastfeeding but plan on weaning soon. I had bad post partumn depression but then felt better especially when with family, friends and being outdoors helped as the months went on. My depression was much worse in the winter.
What is concerning me is that I have always been afraid of bees (got stung a long time ago and have been afraid every since) Well a week ago I took my neice and daughter to the park, I had no perfume on and the bees kept following me and they were on my daughter, I thought maybe I was near a nest but everywhere I went they kept following me! I have always been afraid of bees, but my fear is now to the point where I get nervous and very paranoid going out for a walk during the day with my daughter, even when I dont see any bees I get chills and cant enjoy our walk. I used to walk with her several times a day and now I am lucky if I get one walk in. I hate feeling this way :(
I have two dogs that I used to love but I find myself yelling at them and not giving them the love that they deserve, I used to adore my sweet doggies, not the case anymore Im afraid...ugh I have a very short temper with them.
Also I am terrified to drive again. I havent driven in years and am even more afraid to drive with the baby. I always say Im going to drive and then I make excuses. Anytime we go out with our family, dh ends up driving. I never used to be scared and used to LOVE to drive everywhere even new places and even took road trips. I got the courage to go for a drive today and had trouble putting the key in the ignition then I cried and thought to myself its just not meant to be. I just cant live like this anymore truly. I want to get back to how I used to be. I feel like a failure as a Mom and as a person in general. I really truly feel like the scum of the earth. My daughter deserves soo much better.
I really think I have anxiety and need medication but am scared to take anything especially since Im still breastfeeding my daughter. Is there anything I can do to get back to normal please please help? Can anyone relate?
Thanks soo much for listening!
Monica


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Don't wait any longer to see a dr. Tons of women go through what you are expierencing. It must me hard to be alone all day, and heap all these other feelings on top of that. In the meantime, just know that it won't always be this way. Keep us updated, and come out of lurk-dome ;-)
Chrissy
I am sure that this has already been suggested (these ladies here *are* very smart after all) but I think you should go back to your doctor and mention this anxiety you have. You're right, you can't live this way anymore. Since you plan on weening soon you can mention that. You deserve to be enjoying this precious fleeting time with your sweet little girl. You know, you remember growing up, that there is a whole wonderful world out there. So much to explore and discover. Now imagine the sheer bliss of watching your daughter grow up! Her first pony ride. Her first slumber party. Her first eye roll. Her first broken heart. It's funny and annoying and exciting and scary all at the same time. You'll have to drive and you'll have to go outside because life gets kinda boring inside all the time.
Your fear about bee's I totally get. They are swarming here where I live like crazy too. I go through bee/wasp spray weekly. Lol, heck if I were you I'd have a can in the stroller and be spraying any I saw out on my walk. Just in case, there is a little known but highly effective home remedy just in case there is a sting incident. Get a shaker of meat tenderizer. If one of you is stung, (removing the stinger if necessary) wet the area with spit and dab on the meat tenderizer. The pain is gone in seconds. Literally. It's amazing. Try to keep calm, because bees can smell fear remember, or haven't you seen Jerry Maguire, lol?
((((((((Monica)))))))))
Well first of all, welcome out of lurkdom! Secondly, it sounds like you are having anxiety attacks. I completely agree with the other posters in that you need to talk to your dr about it. I understand how you are feeling b/c I've had problems with that too. I actually went on Zoloft for a little while a couple of years ago, and I was amazed at the difference. I know that there are meds that you can take while breastfeeding. You might also seek counseling to help you learn how to deal with the feeling of being overwhelmed.
You are NOT a failure as a mom just because you are having these feelings... being a mom is hard work, and yes it can be VERY overwhelming at times.
The ladies on this board are absolutely amazing... we have an awesome support system here, so I really hope you stick around.
I have a fear of hornets/bees and man, my son has missed some things because I get freaked out. My friend was driving and he got stung in his car 3 times, .. the thing went down his shirt, that whole day I stayed inside.
I didnt know that there were other people with the same fear....
Thanks ladies for all the support! Im going to talk to my obgyn, this weekend.
You are such a wonderful bunch, I promise to post more often!
Tallchances,
Sorry you have the same fear, I take my daughter to the park and the bees are always following me, it terrifies me ever since I was a child. My hubby and my neice have no fear whatsoever. My sister also has the same fear and she was stung two years ago when she was pregnant, five times by several bees...((shiver))
Thats awful what happened to your friend, if it happened to me I would just die!!!
I cant wait for summer to be over!!!!
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