i can't take this anymore!! VENTING
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i can't take this anymore!! VENTING
| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 4:45pm |
Please. Someone give me someting to get through today. I am a pretty new mom (my son is 4 1/2 months old) and I adore him. I am fortunate to have found a way to stay home...by watching another girl's baby girl. She is 10 months old. Well, she is the fussiest baby I've ever met! Not to mention she craps like 5 times a day when she is here. She is wearing me out! It is hard enough to stay patient with my own when he starts crying, but she is on my last nerve. Today, she is at her all time worst. I know that she is teething, and so I have given her teething tabs, but nothing is working. I finally just put her in her crib in the other room and shut the door because I couldn't handle her anymore. I wish I didn't have to take care of her, but we need the money. If I didn't watch her, I would have to return to work outside the home. Her mom is a teacher, so fortunately I'll have this summer off, but she'll be back in the fall. Which leads me to another dilemma...I am not charging these people NEARLY enough money. I've called around, and the daycares would be charging them hundreds more a month than I am, and I would think that the situation she is in is much better than a daycare. But, how do I tell them now that I am going to charge them more money? There are other families that want me to watch their kids for them, and I'd much rather watch theirs that this little brat, but I can't even go there. The mom is so grateful and she said that her baby is so much happier since coming here. Too bad I don't feel the same way.
As a matter of fact, most days I can't stand the idea of her coming here. She is so annoying! What is wrong with me? I feel like the worst person in the world. I sit here and tell myself that she is just an innocent baby, but then again I honestly feel contempt for her most of the time. She demands more attention from me than my baby that is half her age! Shouldn't he be more of a handful?
Sorry, I just needed to vent.

Relax and know there will be an end to the day.
but about the amt you charge for baby sitting, you should really check out what the going rate for home care is in your area. it's usually not at all comparable to daycare, especially if you're caring for your own child too. around here daycare runs about 100$ to 150 a week, and home care is anywhere between 50$ and 75$ a week. so it's usually considerably less for home care. if you get the paper you can check and see what others are charging and see if you are doing it for less than you should. just a thought....
anyway, hope you're feeling better soon,
clarity
I have a home business, that we do have great products for those little teethers, bum rashes, exzema, asthma, etc, plus not to forget laundry and cleaning products that would illiminate all those stuffy nose , etc....
email me;
smichaud@eastlink.ca
Have you tried Baby Einstein videos? My ds always loved them and still does (he's 15 months old). As kids get older they get easier to handle in some aspects and more demanding in other aspects. For example, my son is now old enough to entertain himself for a little bit, but when he wants me he comes over to me and grunts and holds his hands up for me to pick him up. Putting the baby in the playpen or crib and shutting the door is something everyone has done. YOu have to for your sanity at times. By the time the baby comes back after summer break, hopefully she will be over the whining. Have you talked to the mom and found out if she is like that at home? and what they do to calm her?
I don't know how much you charge, but my part time sitter charges $85 for up to 45 hours of service. However, for children under 1 she charged $150/week. I only pay $20 /day because ds only goes once in a while (when I need to write a paper for school, etc.). There were a few people around the area that were more expensive. I only called one actual daycare center and they charged $150/week.
Don't be afraid to ask for more money if your rates aren't comparable to other at home daycares. My friend used to do daycare in her home full time, but after having twins she now only has one family (two girls) part-time. I think she charges them more now do to the part time status, but I'm not for sure.
Good luck,
Tanya
As a stay-at-home-mom with your own child, I know you'd be mortified if you heard somebody else refer to your baby as a "little brat" or "annoying" or too poopy (even if it were somewhat true). You'd probably also be upset if you were paying someone else to care for your child and the caregiver put your kid in a room alone and closed the door just to get a break from the kid (this may have been for 5 minutes, you didn't specify. But I'm assuming that it was for longer.)
If it were me, once I'd "decided" that a child I was caring for was an annoying little whiny crying snot that drove me insane, it would definitely show in my interactions with the child. I wouldn't talk as sweetly, be as patient, or cuddle as much with a child I'd deemed to be a giant pain in the butt, even if it isn't her fault.
I guess it just sounds like this isn't an ideal situation for you or the child. I hope, at some point, you decide to make some sort of change. At the very least, tell the family that you have had a change of circumstances and won't be able to care for their child in the fall.
I sure hope you get through the day/week - Suzanne
as for the money, same advice as the other ladies check out what other home cares are charging. i charge $3 an hour for the first child and $1 for the second child. and i provide the meals unless it is a baby or the parents want to bring food.
heidi
ds 9, dd 7, ds 5, ds almost 3