I feel so silly

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I feel so silly
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 1:30pm
My friend just had her baby this morning after over 12 hours of labor.
I feel so crappy about it. I know I should be happy. I am happy for her, but it makes me unsatisfied with my life.
Does something that happens in someone else's life make you feel that way? I don't know if it is jealousy. Who knows.
I just feel dumb, because I have so much and that is not making me happy. It should. I have a wonderful husband, two great children.
So why do I feel this way??

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 1:45pm

I know Mel, I sometimes find myself feeling this way at times when family or friends are pregnant. I AM happy for them, truely, I just feel a little twinge of jealousy, and wish it wsa me. I don't think of myself as a bad or selfish person at all, I think it is normal. Maybe because you love being a mom so much, a part of you wants to do it again?

Congratualtions to your friend! By the way, what did she have?

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 1:49pm
The sad thing is, its not just about a baby, but about other people and things that are going on in their lives as well.
I guess I feel I don't have enough even though I do.
Anyways, she had another boy, 6lbs, very small, but healthy.

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 2:56pm

Mel, Im sorry you are feeling down. If theres anything I can do, let me know!

Lesley

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 3:51pm
Mel,
I know how you're feeling, I use to feel that way ALL the time. Like I wasn't satisfied with my life even though I had everything, a wonderful husband and son. Sometimes when I go to the gym, I see these women driving mercedes, BMW's and the nicest and most expensive workout clothes. I just think to myself, how nice would it be to have everything. No matter how many clothes I buy, it seems to only make me happy for about 2-3 days, then i'm back where I was before I bought them. Then I really have to think about things when I'm feeling down, I'm a young mom and we sometimes struggle. But, this is honestly the best part of my life and if I don't enjoy it, I will look back and have soo many regrets. Maybe you feel down about your friend and her baby because you want another child? I hope you feel better soon :)
kate

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 3:52pm

ICK!!

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:10pm

Thanks, I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:14pm

Mel,


I'm sorry you are feeling down.

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:29pm

I can totally understand how you are feeling- I'm feeling something similar with my friend that has just gotten engaged. She and her fiancee both have very high-paying jobs, whereas we are in the process of struggling to adjust to our new one-income status, so there's that too... I am happy for her and I know this is what she wanted, but it's hard not to feel jealous of all the attention and all the excitement surrounding her. Plus she has set the date for my birthday, which I feel weird about! I know it's immature but I kind of liked having that day just for me.
So I can relate! I'm not sure how to fix it- I feel like a bad friend but I think it's a normal feeling that we're having! I hope you're feeling better about it.

Moira

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:35pm
Thanks a bunch Moira.
I can understand the bday wedding thing. I would be a little upset too

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 4:42pm
Mel, more hugs to you! I know we already talked but wanted to say that I think we all can feel like this occasionaly. (((HUGS)))


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