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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 11:46am

I hope nobody takes this the wrong way. I stay at home and homeschool my dc (ds 11, dd 7, and dd 2). Lately I have been feeling like I am drowning. I can't even go to the restroom without my youngest and sometimes my middle following. With the way my dh has been working I have had no 'me' time in so long.

My question is how do you handle never being alone? I tired to leave the dc with my dh one Suday to run out with my mil, but it didn't work. My middle ended up coming (dh could not handle all 3 by himself) and the youngest cried for me the whole time.

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Registered: 09-20-2004
In reply to: 2ndx
Thu, 01-27-2005 - 1:26pm

Mary-
Oh boy do I hear you there. I am the sahm of 4 great kids, ds 12, dd 10, dd 7, & dd 3. While I don't home school I have had many a time when I wondered if I would ever be able to do anything alone again. My first 2 were 2years 1mo. apart, and the 3rd came 2 1/2 years later. We don't have any family around, so there we were. DH at work, sometimes 12 or more hrs per day, & me with an audience in the bathroom and every where else. I have found my oldest to be a great resource for saving my sanity. He can entertain his 3 sisters long enough for me to use the toilet, cook dinner, or even get some reading in. In return he gets priveleges that can only be earned, ie. extended bed time, extra video game/tv time, excused from 1 chore. I also had a mandatory quiet time every day for a minimum of 30 min. Each child was required to be in a different room (my kids can't be quiet when they are together)where they could rest, look at a book, or some other quiet activity. I used this time as a break for myself in a room where the children wern't. Good luck with this challenging time, and remember, as the younger ones age they will become less demanding of your constant attention.

Jody

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Registered: 05-08-2004
In reply to: 2ndx
Thu, 01-27-2005 - 2:03pm

Hi


Another homeschooling mom here. I know it can be overwhelming sometimes. One thing I do is that I get my kids up early in the morning, and they both (seven and three) go to bed at 7:30 every night. This gives me plenty of time afterward to have time to myself and with my Dh. Joining a good homeschool support group is also a key thing. Some have co-ops where you can let the kids take classes, maybe even dropping them off for a few hours. I also make sure and get up 30 minutes before them so that I can wake up and pray and get myself together.


I hope this can help some.


There is also a great board for homeschool support...


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/listsf.asp?webtag=iv-pphomeschool&nav=start


Hugs to you and welcome to the board!


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