I NEED HELP!!!!!!!

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Registered: 07-22-2004
I NEED HELP!!!!!!!
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Mon, 07-26-2004 - 1:19pm
i really need help MY 2 YEAR OLD Victoria is maga hard headed i tried spanking her it don't work and i try having HER stand in a corner it don't work i even tried putting her to bed for time out all she do is play with her feet and fingers and every morning she wakes around 5am to chase the cats play in the cat litter goes though the garbage and mess with alot stuff i have a gate at her door but she climbs it and im scared she's gone break her neck one morning and I've to spank her for the samething every 10-15 mins she never been this bad i don't know what's wrong with her why is she acting out this bad?i take her out she dont even know how to act outside either!! shes worst outside!!! every day its a fight to take a nap to bedtime to dinner lunch breakfast it's always a fight she wasn't like this until i got preggo counld that be it? could she fell someone Ase is coming?or is it me? im very lost right now someONE PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!



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Registered: 07-22-2004
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 11:08pm
thanks for your ideas but the outside thing dont dont work she hits ther kids older then her and theres no kids out her around or close her age thats way me and hubby talk about having another kid would be a good idea im not sure any more and i cut out sugar and it helps a lil and i try the taking the toys away and also making her take a nap right now she have clam down a lil but still being miss touchy touchy i guess thats better then nothing well thanks for your help and thank you for answering my crises
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Registered: 05-08-2004
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 11:21pm

Hi, Just wanted to say that you sound very frustrated.


I do know how you feel. I have had a very difficult time with my two year old. He is relentless when he wants something and is just so unruly sometimes.


I am a christian and My religion beliefs include spanking. I am not trying to cause a debate here, these are just my opinions.


We only spank our children for what we call "deliberate acts of disobedience". That means that we only punish our children with corporal punishment for being rude or disrespectful to us, or telling us no, or running from us. Things that children do everyday like spilled milk or not cleaning up are learning experiences and we can teach our children through this by having them clean up the mess or by time outs.


We never ever punish our children if we are angry! We put them in time outs for those instances. We also never ever leave marks on our children! That is not a punishment that is abuse. I was really shocked at someone's suggestion to pinch their child!


You have to be very consistent with your child. If you say go to the corner to not turn around and let them out just so they will be quiet.


I also promt my children before we go anywhere. If we are going to the grocery store and I am not going to buy them anything, I tell them in advance.


My two year old I have learned is much better off just not going anywhere unless he has had a nap and a full tummy! He is not going to throw as much a fit if he does not get something if he has a full tummy. I also might bring along with me a snack size bag of pretzels or something to keep the tantrums at bay.


I am the kind of person that crying children do just not bother me unless they are hurt. So what if he is crying in the middle of the store! It is not hurting anyone. I've never seen any "quiet shoppers are concentrating" signs.


Now somewhere like a library or movie theatre I will take him out because those places are meant to be quiet. If you are always dropping what you are doing or giving them something to keep them quiet they are going to learn to keep doing these things to get what they want.


I want to tell you there is hope! I was really, really worried about my two year old. He was so selfish with toys and would hit anyone over at our house. He used to be so mean to his girl cousin who was the same age. But! I am seeing some changes in him! He is starting to play with other children besides his brother. He is starting to share and the tantrums are starting to happen less and less. He used to NEVER sleep through the night and now has gone all this week sleeping withought waking!


I beleive being consistent with him and never giving up has really helped him!


He is though one of the sweetest children! He is so loving and is my huggy baby! He can't not go very long withough giving me a hug or a kiss. He really loves his mommy! He can also be soooo sweet to his brother. He has the cutest imagination I have ever seen! He is so funny that he when he does act up I quicly forget after he has done something silly!


Hope this helps some. What a good mom you must be to seek advice!


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Registered: 07-22-2004
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 4:00am
i want to say thank you thank you soooo much mommybeetx xoxoxoxo

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