I think I'm ruining my daughter
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I think I'm ruining my daughter
| Thu, 05-13-2004 - 9:48am |
AH...I can't stop yelling and being irritated with my kid. She's actually quite alovely 2 year old but...I'm just not happy staying at home. Although I am married my husband works in a different state M-F and sometimes is also gone on weekends (Race Engineer for a CART racing team) and I'm just having a really hard time being a "single parent". I'm constantly yelling at her and being "irritated". It got so bad that last night I called a child abuse hotline and just cried. I've never been happy as a stay-at-home mom - oh gotta go, she's awake....

Two is a rough age for the most patient among us. And not every mom is destined to be a stay-at-home. If you feel the need to seek work options, maybe that is something for you to look into.
Also, with your DH away so often, it may be that you need to broaden your circle of adult companions and friends. Are there other stay at home moms or neighbors you can spend more time with? Sometimes just knowing that someone else is going through the same things can help you regain your sanity.
Is there a mom's morning out program at a local church or community center that will give you a few free hours a week? Can you afford to have a teenager over two afternoons a week for a couple of hours to give you a break? How about preschools or summer kid camps?
Have you talked to your DH about this? I realize that your time with him is limited, but I am sure that if you let him know just how seriously you are feeling about all of this he will make it a priority to help you find some solutions.
Hugs - Suzanne
PS - You are not ruining your daughter. Kids are pretty resiliant. You have recognized a pattern that isn't good and you are going to take steps to rectify that. She will be fine.
Best wishes,
Sheri
Hugs, Helene
Tanya
Trish :)
If you ever decide to research preschools, go to www. NAEYC.org. The National association for education of young children has a rigorous accreditation process. You can pull up a list of accredited preschools in your area and start researching options for next fall and beyond. I am extremely protective of my son when it comes to sitters and such. I use one maybe twice a year. But he did attend preschool. I simply made sure he would be with people with whom I was comfortable leaving him. NAEYC has a web site with a list of questions to ask the preschool, things to do during your school visits, etc. There may be a few good programs in your area that you aren't aware of.
Good thoughts - Suzanne