I want to be a Very Important person *m*

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I want to be a Very Important person *m*
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Sat, 09-25-2004 - 8:54pm
As I had stated in a previous post I have been trying to convince DH to let me be a SAHM for THREE years. Now, he has agreed! I was only working part time before so I did MOST of the childcare, bathing, feeding and paying bills. Not to mention loads of laundry. I am soooo excited about my new status and I just realllllly want to do a good job. I know I need to start preparing meals, doing at least one load of laundry each day (to include putting away) but what other things do you do for DH that he realllly appreciates. I want this to be life changing for DH. Do you have a routine, ie: putting a load in before breakfast, dishes after meal. when do you fold/unload,etc How often do you grocery shop, do you cook meals each night? If so, types of meals???

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FYI I do have a THREE year old and One year old
ia
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Sat, 09-25-2004 - 9:29pm
Oh sheesh I ended up deleting my whole message. I hit the back button instead of editing it. I am having more and more blonde moments lately!

I'm going to give you a summary:

I have started Flylady - its working for me - even though it will probably take a total of 6 mos before I am really up and running with it. Get the book "Sink Reflections".

My dh is fairly typical and I would say what really makes him happy has nothing to do with a clean house. (Yes, I am talking about s-e-x, more specifically foreplay) But, I need to be energetic, and not stressed out enough to want to do it for him, so finding a way to be really organized and clutter free is key for me at least.

Finally, being able to greet your dh at the end of the day with a smile, clean clothes, combed hair, maybe some makeup, and 5-10 min to sit down and chat is a really great thing. It makes for a more pleasant homecoming and start to the evening. My dh's workday ends at 430 but he often stays later. The more I have him looking forward to coming home, the more likely he is to finish up and get out of there and save the rest for tomorrow. I am still working on that last one, but hope to have the flylady thing going strong when he comes back from his deployment so I can try it out on him.

Good luck! SAHM full time is not all chaos and gray hair and its not all bonbons and soaps either - its somewhere in the middle and really, your own perception of it can have a huge impact on how it works for you.

Dolli

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 3:17pm
Hi,

Congratulations on your new status! My husband is so thrilled with me being home that he doesn't want me to go back to work even when the kids are older. The biggest change for us has been that I'm not so stressed out and running around trying to get everything done. I've always done all the housework, childcare stuff, but had to fit it all in in evenings and weekends. Now, I'm much more relaxed, and we have more time together. As for having a schedule- I used to, but got away from it. I really need to work on that again. I do make dinner every night, and go for groceries once a week. I try to get most things done during the day, so that we have eveninngs together as a family. Of course, that doesn't always happen though. Hope that helps. Good luck.

Jen

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 5:35pm

I was almost afraid to post my response here...


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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 8:23pm
Congrats to you on becoming a sahm :)
I think it really depends on you and want you feel comfortable in doing as far as housework and so forth.
As someone else mentioned, FLYLady is a good place to get some ideas on how to start a routine.
Good luck and welcome to the board.


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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 9:01pm

us too, we are always going somewhere, I have 3 girls and all 3 are in diffrent schools. My oldest is in middle school and goes to dance class 3 days a week, my middle child is in elematary school and goes to dance once a week, soccer 2 times a week and sunday school. My youngest dd is in nursery school, dance and Sunday School. It is crazy hetic, and the laundry is forever, and even though I am home the house is always messy somewhere! I pick up, turn around and there is the mess again. I also do daycare in my home too. I have been home so long, the days of me having a routine are gone. LOL!! I have 3 calanders that I go by one for each kid and then my own, so I guess I have 4,, lol,,


anyway to the OP good luck,, I am sure you will be great!

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 9:22pm
Thank you for all your input! It seems like I am more stressed out after being at home w/ two lil' ones vs coming home from work. I will need to work on that!
ia
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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 9:26pm
Thank you for your input! I am going to get back to a routine but NOTHING set in stone Looks like this so far:

Monday- free day

Tuesday- Older one goes to preschool 9-11:30 p/u lunch then back to school 1-3)

Wed MOP 9:30-11:30

Thursday Older one school again, playgroup 9-10:3- w/ 1 yr old

Friday- Open

I worry about those days we don't have activites going on!

ia
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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 9:27pm
THank you for your input, I will check out FLylady!
ia
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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 9:29pm
Thank you for sharing! You are quite a busy gal. Half of me worries about not being busy enough, while the other half feels I can' get enough done! LOL

OF course, my boys are ONLY 1 and 3

ia