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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 8:43pm

Ok, first let me tell you the magistrate didnt make a decision today, he will in the next 2 days about the restraining order. He said it was very close and he needed to think about it. He is concerned about the distress this has caused Becky, and he has to consider it although no threats or physical violence occured.
It was by far the hardest day of my life, I can't describe the agony and pain I felt. I actually broke down when we first got there and started to cry. Then we took a 5 minutes break and I cried again, I just couldnt help it, I tried to keep it together. The magistrate asked her two times if she would like to dismiss the case and she refused, she said shes really afraid of me.
We were in the court room for 3 hours going through cross-examination and testimonies. my lawyer was brutal to Becky, but Beckys lawyer wasn't bad towards me, which I was glad about. They had to call my husband to come in to testify against me, which wasnt bad because he did tell the truth and it helped me a little bit. Of course he never looked me in the eyes, looked down the whole time. Becky wouldnt look at me either, she glanced one time.
He was only in he room for about 10 minutes and left. Anyway, Let me just say what a mistake Mike has made. The girl that faced me today just isnt worth it, she doesnt have one ounce of class about her and she her attitude makes her very unattractive. I just can't believe he would go to her, at least he could've picked someone a little better than me or SOMEthing or maybe someone that at least was nice because she just doesnt seem like a very nice person. Im in awe, really. SHe had on this jean skirt,thick white nylons and these brown shoes. And she wore her sunglasses on her head the whole time.
Everything just clicked in me today, like wow, Mike has NO standards or morals. My lawyer made a comment to me that Mike needs to get rid of her b/c she's trouble. Shes very high maintenance, but in a cheap way, ya know?? That was my day, Im praying every second she doesnt get this, but I will know in the next 2 days, maybe tomorrow.

I wanted to add that I wont be accepted into nursing school or be able to get a job with a restraining order against me. So, If she does get it, I have to appeal it and its another court date...I hope it doesnt come to this.




Edited 12/20/2006 8:54 pm ET by kate923

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Registered: 07-06-2006
In reply to: kate923
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 8:49pm

I hope everything works out in your favor. Its good that Mike told the truth. I had to LOL at your description of the OW! I'll keep praying for you, Kate! Thanks for the update.

Chrissy

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In reply to: kate923
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:01pm

Kate, I'm glad to see a post from you. I got your email btw...


ummmm did I read this right.."He said it was very close and he needed to think about it. He is concerned about the distress this has caused Becky"


REALLY?????????


I'm sorry, but what about the distress YOU were caused by this "woman" coming between you and you husband, and the distress she has caused your kids???


What about the fact that the reason you went to see her was to meet the "woman" that is spending time with your kids while they are with Mike? OMG, thats just so wrong that it isnt an open and shut case. Unbelievable. What person wouldn not want to meet the person who is spending weekends and such with thier children. What kind of a mother would you be if you just said "ok Mike, take the kids and go off with whomever you chose" kwim?


arrgghhh that makes me mad. Sorry for going off there Kate, I just know that God and justice is on your side and you will come out on top. I still am in shock that she was able to get a restraing order against you since all you did was drive to her house and she saw you and took off. She's pathetic, and sounds like a snappy dresser at that.


You're right, Mike lost out BIG TIME. Don't ever forget it. You are way better than her, and Mike did have standards at one point because he chose YOU to be his wife...he blew it along the way, you didn't.


I'm so sorry you are going through this. I will be checking in to see an update from you Kate. Hang in there sweetie, that millionaire is around the corner lol! (sorry, after my tirade, I thought I'd try to lighten the mood lol)


Let me know if you ever need to talk ok?

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Registered: 11-05-2004
In reply to: kate923
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:09pm
Lesley,
I feel the same. What about the stress I am going through? What about the fact that my husband leaves me, goes to another woman, denies the whole damn thing and is emotionally abusive to me?
And the poor children. It sickens me beyond belief to think their feelings and mine arent even considered.
I made it a point to say the reason why I went to her house was to meet the woman that's around my children and any mother would want that. Like I said before everything happens for a reason, and there's a reason for this, whatever the heck it is.
I will let you know when the magistrate makes his decision. Im just glad Mike is out of my life, I am much better off and I deserve way better.

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:22pm

What a day!

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:48pm

OMGoodness!

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In reply to: kate923
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 5:43am

I'm sure the magistrate will see that you were going over there as a mother, not as some crazy person trying to do something to her. It will all work out in the end.

Christine

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In reply to: kate923
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 7:20am

Hugs Kate - this is so tough!

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Thu, 12-21-2006 - 8:38am
i really hope this turns out in your favor. Does your ex know this would affect your acceptance into school and in getting a job? good luck though and have a good christmas, with your little guys.
I have been posting on another board so i haven't been here in about 2 weeks. It is a weight control board i don't want to gain in the hollidays. lol
arie,
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Registered: 12-01-2005
In reply to: kate923
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 8:54am
~~Hugs Kate~~ I can't imagine why he would need anytime at all to think about anything. let us know how things go.Hang in there!

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In reply to: kate923
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 9:16am

*big hugs* I am so sorry you are going through this. I can't even imagine. Keep your chin up. You are a much better person than this girlfriend of your husband.


I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.




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