The Inevitable Husband Rant

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Registered: 05-04-2011
The Inevitable Husband Rant
Fri, 03-29-2013 - 2:24pm

I'm feeling bitter.  Yesterday I was literally cooking all day, making freezer food for DH's work lunches and for upcoming suppers.  When I was finally done about 7 o'clock last night, I jokingly said, "Well, I made this mess..." (which was, when I was growing up, finished with "so someone else can clean it up") and DH, point blank, said, "So you clean it up."  I was ready to explode, I was so mad!  I had spent my entire day doing extra things for him, and he couldn't even be bothered to help me with the dishes?  I ended up leaving half of them on the counter to do today.  He also had the gall to ask me at quarter after five, "What's for dinner?" and when I told him it was pasta, to say, "Can't you make something else?"  I'VE BEEN MAKING SOMETHING ELSE ALL DAY.  IF YOU DON'T LIKE WHAT'S ON THE MENU, MAKE YOUR OWN FRIGGING DINNER.

And after all this, he couldn't figure out why I was annoyed.  *facepalm*  Husbands are so dense sometimes.

I'm also editing this just to add that I'm also doing this when I have a final coming up next week, and a project due, and another test.  I'm in school so that I can have a well-paying career that I like so that he can retire early, and what does he say?  "Well, you're the one who wants to be in school."  AAAARRRRRGH!

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Fri, 03-29-2013 - 7:19pm

Ugh.  I would be irritated too.  Next time, just tell him that since he's the one who reaps the benefits of your cooking all day, then he can help with the clean up.  Sometimes they need to be told exactly what we'd like them to do to help.  I can't believe he asked you to make him something else.  I'm pretty sure my DH would have wound up wearing the pasta.  (((hugs)))

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Registered: 09-02-2003
Mon, 04-01-2013 - 7:28pm

I'm sorry your husband was being like that. Men have a tendancy to be dense sometimes... you really have to spell it out for them- that's why they always say us women are so confussing because we make so many assumptions that they can read us based on how we act, but you literally have to tell them exactly how it is for them to get it.

Good for you for going to school. I know how hard that is. I'm 28 years old and spent my early 20's in school and working... I was just telling DH today that my 20's zipped on by because I was so busy, I didn't take time to enjoy the age I was. I taught for four years before deciding to stay home with my son, who was born in December. I can always go back to teaching, but he'll only be this age once and everyone always says how fast it goes.


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Registered: 10-10-2007
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 5:39am


ugh, well, I sapose dishes are done and it over until the next holiday, right?  You must be a good meal planner and cook.

I may have asked yo this already, do you do like a weekly menu dinner schedule?  What kind of food do you make and then freeze?  Any good freezer recipe ideas?

As you can figure out, I am not a chef, grin.

Hugs to you on the hubby issue.


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Registered: 08-31-2011
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 7:54pm

I feel your frustration! My husband does the same sort of thing! Just start cleaning up you and your kids things and leave his stuff for him. I started doing that when my husband kept not putting his dishes is the dishwasher, or clothes in the hamper, etc. He told me since I was home all day I should be able to do it. Boy he sure changed his mind quick when Monday morning came and he had no clean socks or underwear! 

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Registered: 05-04-2011
Sat, 04-06-2013 - 4:50pm

I make a way-in-advance basic meal plan, and figure out specifics each week.  For instance, I know when we're having pork in July, but I'm not sure yet how I'm going to cook it.  ;)

The one thing that I freeze most often is beef and bean burritos.  DH will take them to work or have them as a snack.  Other than that, we also freeze lasagne.  Sometimes I will put chicken in a marinade and freeze it.  Pies freeze well.  So do baked things like cookies and cinnamon buns.  It just depends on what you like!  Almost anything will freeze well at some point in the recipe, and then there is only a bit left to do before you cook it up.