This irks me

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Registered: 03-26-2003
This irks me
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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 4:57pm

We're having Matthew's birthday party at a kiddie sports center tomorrow. It's a lunch party, with pizza, hot dogs and cake that the place provides. I sent out invitations like 3 weeks ago. A few people didn't respond. Now I'm guilty of that at times, too, I admit. I misplace an invitation, or forget about it. But then I don't call at the last minute and say I'm coming.

I've had 2 moms call me today to say their sons are coming. Last minute. The RSVP date was a week ago. The sports center wanted a head count last Monday, and I gave it to them. I bought gift bags with party favors, and ordered the food. Luckily, I knew this would happen and got a few extra gift bags, but what if I hadn't? I'd be scrambling right now, and I'm going to play BUNCO for a girls' night out tonight and don't have time to prepare for this party anymore.

It's kinda rude to do that to people, don't you think?? But what am I supposed to say: No, you can't come? I just can't bring myself to do that.

Sofia




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Registered: 11-13-2003
In reply to: surfnsand
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 5:28pm
yes Sofia, that is rude. I've had that happen before as well. Smart of you to have bought extra party favors. Probably a good idea for every party.
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Registered: 05-14-2004
In reply to: surfnsand
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 5:32pm
Unfortunatly this is our generation.... we've forgotten how to do the kind and responsible thing i.e., how to RSVP, send birthday cards, and how to send thank you notes - unless it is via email then you can probably just forget about it. I've had this same thing happen to me. I've now taken things into my own hands and personally call for the RSVP - and I have had to tell a mom or two that it just isn't cool to show up to a party at the last minute or to send extra siblings that were not invited. You were lucky to have thought ahead and have extra stuff on hand. But, you might want to share your feelings with these other moms... like at a girls night out - a non threating environment. Best of luck to you. I hope that we all can do better in the future to be a bit more courteous to others.
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Registered: 08-30-2004
In reply to: surfnsand
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 12:27am
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In reply to: surfnsand
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 9:49am

RUDE! People can be so disrespectful. We've had our share of this with my in-laws.

BTW, the party sounds like great fun!

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Registered: 10-30-2005
In reply to: surfnsand
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 11:57am

That does stink.

 

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Registered: 05-11-2006
In reply to: surfnsand
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 12:38pm
I am right there w/ you.
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Registered: 11-17-2003
In reply to: surfnsand
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 8:18pm
Yes it was a good idea to do extras. I always make sure I have more than enough. My Mom actaully taught a class on Etiquette to all the neighbor teen girls when I was growing up and when I reached the age of 13 I took the course from my Mom too. It was requirement. We learned everything from how to write proper thank you notes, setting a proper table, respect, how to take care of our appearances, etc. I am thankful for that information that was taught to me. I am gonna do the same for my daughter too because I feel that a lot of people have gotten away from being polite. I gave a baby shower to this one gal and she didn't even say thank you or send out notes to anyone. I felt embarrassed for her because the guests were calling me to ask if I had gotten a thank you from her. That is just plain direspectful and it is a huge pet peeve of mine that I have to get over-hehe. Also those tht show up late and never apologize. Ok I am off my soap box. I don't do many of the Birthday things anymore either. Trish :)
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Registered: 03-14-2005
In reply to: surfnsand
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 1:08am
I know what you mean Sofia... I've had parties for the girls where I wasn't sure if ANYONE was going to show up b/c they never called.

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Registered: 01-06-2004
In reply to: surfnsand
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 3:00pm
That would irk me as well.
I do a halloween party every year for Andrews class. No one responds and then almost at the last second I get calls that people are coming. Not only that, but then they invite their own family and come and dont even tell me that they are coming.
I would put your foot down and say sorry, too late.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
In reply to: surfnsand
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 5:15pm

That is a source of aggravation for me.

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