Jealous of Brother

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Jealous of Brother
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 4:40pm
Hey all...

So my brother called and he just got notice that he got on the fire department! Congrats, right? He's also in the National Guard (and just got a promotion there) and has this new girlfriend (hot, exciting, new love) and I couldn't be happier for him.

Bull!

I am JEALOUS! He has SO much going on, SO much excitment and my excitement for the day will be seeing how many people respond to this post.

I used to be sooooo active. I worked full time, went to school (then graduated). I was always in training for some race or another. Then I got pregnant and 12 months ago, had my first. Sure, the pregnancy was all exciting and new and the newborn was exciting. Then, when she was 7 months old, I found out that I was (am) pregnant again. Not so exciting this time.

I have NOTHING going on and I HATE IT. I can't stand having nothing to look forward to. In 3 1/2 months I'll have a new baby and all I see is MORE WORK. DD drains all my energy and all my brain power now. I can barely make it through an entire issue of Entertainment Weekly.

Have any of you felt the same way? I mean soooooooooooo bored but almost too exhausted to do anything about it? I feel like the pool of depression is stretching out before me and I am about to dive in.....

:(

Melissa

Meldi
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Registered: 02-21-2004
In reply to: meldi
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 6:51pm
Melissa,

I know how you feel. My younger brother had a brand new house built, new car, nice clothes and his wife was like only 23 when they had their house built. I don't know why it bothered me so much, but it did. I also used to work and go to school and do alot, but since my boys, I feel like a social loser. My husband goes on fun work trips and nice dinners why I'm at home cleaning macaroni off the wall. I feel like my brain is mush sometimes. I do word jumbles in the paper so I feel like I've used my brain at least once during the day. I got pregnant with my third child when my second was only 9 months old. I was a mess the whole pregnancy. I felt like you, more work to do. Like tonight, my husband is at the Detroit Pistons game for free with work. My boys are running around naked and stacking soup cans up in the living room. I get so bored sometimes too! I get sick of being in my house I want to blow it up!!! I don't know if this made you feel better, but you are not alone in how you feel. Take care!

Trina

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Registered: 09-15-2003
In reply to: meldi
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 7:57pm
Thanks, Trina, I do feel better....

and I live in Michigan too! Maybe it's just the weather getting us down? I don't think so...I don't think that I feel smarter when it's sunny out! Still feel like a mush-brain.

I just told my husband how I felt (about being jealous) he just sat and listened... I don't know what he was thinking about me, but it probably wasn't flattering!

Sometimes....oh, I don't know, just sometimes, you just feel bored and lonely, I guess.

Here's to us!

Melissa
Meldi
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Registered: 02-21-2004
In reply to: meldi
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 9:31pm
Hey Melissa,

Glad I could help. Husbands never understand what it's like being a mom. I'm sure that your husband isn't thinking bad about you. This weather does stink. That's Michigan for you!!! It's so not fair that husbands still get to have social lives when we need it more than they do!!! I feel like I've lost who I am as a woman. I feel like DH looks at me as the mommy, not a woman, who is more than a mommy and housewife. Do you know what I mean? I feel like there's the real me stuck inside of this body and can't get out. I don't know if that makes sense. Sorry to go on like that. It just gets to me alot. Hope you have a better day tomorrow!!!

Trina

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Registered: 02-20-2004
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 8:25am
Hi Melissa,

I know how you feel!! I haven't been jealous of my brother, but best friend. She's single (planning a wedding for June), beautiful, smart, and successful. I even hate saying all this, because she is my best friend and has been since Junior High. I go married last June and me and dh had to pay for our wedding ourselves. Her fil to be is paying for hers. My wedding was beautiful and everyone had a wonderful time (we spent $15,000 NOT including the rings and honeymoon and still have the credit card bills to show that). Her fil wants her to have hers at the country club (they are the only people I know that has a membership-it's really expensive!), she has a wedding planner (I had to plan mine by myself from a different state), and is spending $3,000 on real flowers (I spent about $600 on fake ones). The whole time I was planning my wedding she kept saying that weddings are supposed to be small and intimate and only your best friends should be in your wedding party. (I had 6 attendens, meaning 6 girls and 6 guys and NOW she is having 7. Go figure.) I am happy for her and I love her, but I can't help but wonder if she is marrying him for the money and name. Oh well...it's her life.

As for your husband...everytime I tell my husband I'm depressed or something is bothering me he just says "What do you have to worry about?" He doesn't listen either. :) Just keep smiling. We are here for you. TAke care.

TAnya

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Registered: 02-20-2004
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 8:33am
It's tanya again. I also wanted to add... she is alway's going out and buying expensive clothes and formal gowns. Her, her fiance, and future fil go to formal wine testings. I'm scared to put on nice clothes... little hands are always lurking!

Tanya
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Registered: 01-13-2004
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 9:19am
Hi guys My name is Kelly & I can relate to all of you!!! I am planning my wedding we are getting marreid in sept. Well I just thought it would be a little more fun,well it was up until another friend got engaged & then it become a pity party for me. We are paying for all of it except my parents are giving us 3000. Her family & fiance are paying the whole bill. I dont even answer the phone when she calls now she has to ask me what I have done so far so she can do better.( she even told me her ring was "way bigger than mine"" I wanted to slap her face).But anyways it seems when anyone tells me there good news I'm like ya thats great(not).I really should not complain & really should be a little more excited for them but I just think I'm bored & want everyone to feel the same way I guess.When I say anything to future hubby he looks at me like I'm crazy & say do you wanna go get your nails done!!!! HELLO