Just venting

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Just venting
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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 1:51pm

It has been rough around here since the kids started school.  JT is being very 3 but it is a constant argument with him about everything and with every argument comes a meltdown.  It just wears at you.  And Nathan is still adjusting to school and he's always been an arguer but is has gotten worse or maybe it just feels worse with dealing with JT all day.  Homework with Nathan is unpleasant, he's either arguing about not doing it or arguing that his incorrect answer is right. I know it is a phase and JT will hopefully get through it sometime soon, and we need to find a different solution for Nathan where the responsibility for homework gets put back on him.  We are constantly running with soccer stuff so homework is squeezed in where we can and that doesn't help.  I'm just not enjoying my kids right now.  

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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 3:51pm
That was me last year. Ian had a TON of homework every night. More than any first grader should have. It wasn't just him either, it was everyone in his class. 3 math worksheets (2 would be timed), a spelling assignment, and then a random 3rd subject. Thursdays were the worst because it was "write a story using each spelling word once." My head hurts just remembering it. How is JT's homework load? Is it too much or just enough?

This year, Ian's homework load has lightened up considerably. He gets home, gets a snack, and does his homework. So far, there has been no arguing about it. So, either he doesn't mind it OR he finally figured out that complaining only makes things take 10 times longer to finish.

We're always running too. Monday and Friday are the only two days out of the week where we don't have somewhere to be after school.

How long is soccer running? Will you get a break when that is over or will a new activity start up?
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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 10:38pm
I can totally understand. I love Emma to death, but she's definitely driving me nuts lately. Hope it gets better soon!
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Fri, 09-14-2012 - 5:01am
Nathan doesn't really have that much homework. This year they send the weeks worth home on Friday and it is 1 reading/vocab sheet and 3-4 math sheets. I was thinking of him doing them over the weekend so we don't need to worry through the week but that might be overwhelming him. He breezes through math pretty much but I make him re-write for neatness when I can't read it. Spelling words have gotten harder this year so we need to practice them and that is a huge issue. He argues that the words are right even when they aren't and throws a big tantrum. He had a big "about me" poster project and that was a nightmare. Screaming and after sending him to his room to calm down he was kicking the walls pretty hard. I'm dreading the social studies tests, the 3rd grade ones are brutal, with Alex we would spend an hour just finding the answers to the study guide. We only have Wed, Fri with no running and Sat it is all day at the fields and that is hard on everyone.

Soccer goes through the end of Oct but the older 2 finish up a week early. I'm already looking forward to it ending. Nathan is talking indoor soccer and that starts up right away but that is at most 1 practice a week and a Sat morning game. Alex doesn't really want to do anything this winter but DH thinks he needs something to keep him active. Maybe swimming lessons after indoor soccer ends.
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In reply to: jenastar
Fri, 09-14-2012 - 10:57am
Does the school give you any tips on studying for spelling? I don't know how long his list is, but this is what Ian has to do for 20 spelling words:

-Monday: Write each word three times.
-Tuesday: For words 1-10, write one sentence using each word.
-Wednesday: For words 11-20, write one sentence using each word.
-Thursday: (the school doesn't ask this one, I just have him do it) Practice test, any word he misspells, I have him write it ten times. He usually gets them all right, so he's only had to write a word ten times once.

Then, Friday is the test. Do you think something like that might help?
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Mon, 09-17-2012 - 12:49pm
My oldest is actuality in 5th grade but he isn't the issue. My struggle is with the 3rd grader. The work load is a big increase and we had talked about it before school started because we went through it with our oldest. The project we had 2 weeks to work on so plenty of time but the first week of school he was a wreck (doesn't handle change well) so we didn't even try doing it. I'm just fed up with the drama from him and we are going to try making his bed time 15 min earlier for every tantrum he throws. Spelling, I found a few websites that have games and tests that are all on the computer and you can type in your own list. So the computer can tell him he's wrong instead of me! Hopefully once he realizes the tantrum doesn't get him anything it will stop.
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Wed, 09-19-2012 - 1:18am

Sounds like a tough go at your house right now.  :smileysad:  I hope it's just a phase with JT -- could be that he's having some adjustment issues with his brothers not being home again.  September always brings so many changes.

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In reply to: jenastar
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 2:41pm
Ian is in 2nd grade now. I wonder if next year will be a repeat of 1st grade in terms of work. I've spoken to the parents of the older kids, and it seems like 1st grade at this school is the most demanding of homework until you get to 6th. It's a Catholic school, so they have PK-8.

That's a good idea to use the computer. Ian was so ticked at me last night because we did his practice test. Each word he gets wrong, I have him write it 10 times. Well, as I was giving him words, I noticed he was spelling two of them wrong so I kept repeating the word until he figured out what was wrong. I made him write those two words five times each plus one that was wrong that he didn't catch. He flipped his lid over those 2 words. I'm so glad DH backed me up last night. Ian's problem is his handwriting. He is always getting counted off for not closing his 8s, dotting his i's so they look like a lowercase L... I don't know if I should let him do his words on the computer since his handwriting is so atrocious. Though, to be realistic, I don't know how much we can fix that. He writes just like his dad and his grandpa.