"kids don't give love, they take it"?!?

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Registered: 07-24-2003
"kids don't give love, they take it"?!?
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 4:34pm
My minister told me today that children don't really give love- they take it. then, she corrected herself & said 'well, they show it in unexpected ways at unexpected times.

i can't get out of my mind that remark she made: 'children don't give love- they take love.'

is that true??

she doesn't have children (yet) & neither do i.

she does do a lot of sunday school & counseling to children/parents/families.

she has a masters in counseling & her doctorate in divinity.

is she right?

when i see her on sunday- i'm going to ask her why people have children then.

people don't become moms just to be a sacrificial lamb. it's not all being the martyr at the stake.

i know it's a lot of sacrifice & work but it's not all a 1-way street, is it??

thanks for your thoughts.

Kat

 Katrina

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mmm...I would ask her more about the statement but I think you might have hit on something when you mentioned working with troubled mothers/children.

I have an very, very strong-willed child who has had several problems and right now we struggle with her being 5 and in kindergarten but not toilet trained. I have to work at reminding myself that she does love me and that the misbehavior or the dirty/wet pants or the temper tantrums that involve hitting/kicking/biting me doesn't mean that I'm a terrible person whom she doesn't love. I can see where if you only saw a snapshot of families you might start to get that view (plus-burnout is really high is those types of professions-maybe that's an issue?).

But..all the frustration with the situation melts away when I get a big hug and mommy I love you or I see her friends and she's told everyone that her mommy comes and reads books.

Taleyna

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Registered: 10-26-2004
ok, EVERYONE is lying.

What your minister said is COMPLETELY true.

These women only say how great motherhood is because they are suffering and think everyone else should too!

Becca

ps: read that dripping with sarcasm ;)

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