Kids sharing rooms?

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Kids sharing rooms?
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Sun, 08-13-2006 - 8:44pm

DH and I are considering having more kids. We have 2 girls aged 2 and 4 (they are 23 months apart). We live in a 4 bedroom house. Each girl has her own bedroom now, we have ours and we have a guest room becuase we have alot of out of town family and friends. If we have more kids, the girls will be sharing my 4 year olds room (it is the biggest room) and depending on how many more kids we have and their sexes, we may have the other ones share too. I am thinking I might want 2 more kids. We don't really want to give up the guest room, so we are planning to possibly put a bedroom in the basement when we finish it.

One of the small reasons I am still undecided about more kids is that I really want my kids to have their own rooms. My girls do love to have sleepovers in each other's room now, but if they are forced to share, then I am worried they will hate it when they are teenagers!

Anyone have kids who share a room? How old are they and do they like it?

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Sun, 08-13-2006 - 9:21pm

My girls share a room. They're turning 3, and are identical twins, which makes them very bonded. I don't think either one would do well without their sister. They have their own bathroom off their bedroom (what's called a Princess Suite). I have 2 sons also, turning 5 and turning 8. They each have their own rooms, and share a bathroom that opens off the upstairs hall on one side, and the playloft on the other side. We had this house built for us in 2000. We had 1 kid. I intended to have 1 more. The girls' room was the guest room. SURPRISE!! I unexpectedly found myself pregnant with TWINS!! (So ya never know!). There went the guest room.

I have no problem with my girls sharing a room. They were together in the womb, and have been together ever since. They are inseparable. They do everything together. They even get in each others' beds in the night and sleep together (I pity their future boyfriends, LOL!!). But I did miss the guest room. Like you, we have huge extended family.

We just had our basement finished, after 6 years of waiting. Like you want to, we had a guest room and bathroom with tub/shower put in. That solves that.

I grew up sharing a room with THREE sisters and I survived!! My brother had his own room. Now how fair was that? I used to crave my privacy. . . I wouldn't worry about when they're teenagers yet. You might have a bigger house by then, or have added on to yours.

My advice for what it's worth? Don't let lack of bedrooms stop you from having more kids.

Good luck!!

Sofia




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Sun, 08-13-2006 - 9:32pm

Thanks Sofia.

I read on another ivillage board someone said "you will never regret having another baby, but you might regret NOT having another one".

My parents had 2 (my brother and I), she wanted another, my Dad didn't. Then after a few years, my Dad said that maybe a 3rd would have been ok. He has already had the big V, so it didn't happen. My parents regret it now. I do not want to do that.

Thanks for your post. Your house sounds great! Love the bathrooms off the bedrooms. If we have 2 more kids and they are both boys, then they will share the 2nd bedroom and the girls will share the other and that leaves 1 for a guest room, but if we have 2 more and they are different sexes, then we use all the bedrooms up. So is life. Guestroom in the basement with a bathroom. You are right.....everyone keeps telling me to not let bedrooms sharing make the decision to have more or not. Just a hang up I guess.

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Sun, 08-13-2006 - 9:40pm

My 2 oldest boys share a room. They are 7 and 2. It works out better then I thoguht it would. We have bunk beds for them.
Now, I know later on they will need their own room, but for now, we only have 2 bedrooms for the kids and have 3 kids.
As a kid, I wanted so bad to share a room with my sister, but when we did it was horrible

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Sun, 08-13-2006 - 11:23pm

I wouldn't let the rooms determne whether I had more kids. Heck, you may not

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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:34am

I think it is only in America where we have this thing with having bedrooms for each child :) If I had waited to do every little thing I had wanted before having kids...well I just would not have any. I have never heard of anyone being scarred from having to share a room with a sibling. As a child my favorite private place was in a huge tree in our backyard. It is where I went to write and to read. There are other places besides a bedroom for your children to have their own space. jmo


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Tue, 08-15-2006 - 12:13pm
I'm not SAH yet, but as someone that works with college students in the residence halls I can tell you I LOVE students who have previously shared a room.
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