Kindergarten troubles

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Kindergarten troubles
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Wed, 06-15-2005 - 1:18pm
Is going to the same school for the whole kindergarten year important??? The reason I am asking is because with DH job we move every 3 months. Our plan was to get back closer to Kansas where I am from and put Hannah in school while Russ keeps traveling. My mom and dad had a big fit about this saying that it could ruin our marriage not seeing each other for that long of time. I must admit I do depend on Russ alot. (Im kind of clingy) My parents think we should just keep doing what we are doing and put Hannah in a school when we get there which could mean a new school every 3 months. I am very nervous about this. I don't want to screw Hannah up. 1004.gif Is kindergarten that important?? Thanks for reading this!!
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Wed, 06-15-2005 - 3:32pm

Hi and welcome. Personally, I don't think switching every 3 months is a good idea. Kindergarten is important. It is the beginning of their school career and it needs to be a positive experience. Personally, I would move close to family, if you can, and put her in kindergarten where she will be for the full year. I haven't had to deal with a traveling husband but it would be much harder on your daughter switching schools every three months rather than you having to deal with your husband being gone for 3 months at a time. I hope this helps.

Good luck!

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Wed, 06-15-2005 - 3:48pm

Hey Tami,


Being a homeschooler I have a different prospective. Will the family be more stable and in a more permanent place next year? Do you know the compulsory age for school attendance in your state. You could homeschool her for kindergarten so that the family could stay together. Just an idea. Just because she is 5 does not mean you are suddenly incompetent to teach her. :)


I do believe however that switching schools is not a good idea for this age. As a former pre-k teacher I had quite a few children who switched schools. They never seemed quite comfortable to me. They also seemed a little more anxious. You can explain to children this age the need to leave people they have gotten used to, and they usually say okay, but they are usually in shock when the move actually happens. This is just my opinion however and you and your dh need to follow your heart.

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Wed, 06-15-2005 - 4:02pm

Wow! I didn't even think of that. Homeschooling is a great idea. Since I don't home school I totally blanked out on that one. Great idea. That would solve the problem of the moving around and switching schools.

I commend you...I don't have the patience to home school. I am happy though with our public schools. My boys are doing well and love the interaction with other kids their age.

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 4:41pm

Tami,
I don't think having to switch schools every 3 months is the ideal situation, but kids are very adaptable at this age. My dd had to switch twice and she did fine. In fact she loved the extra attention she got being the new kid and the good-bye gifts she got when we moved.

You just have to decide what is right for you and your family. I personally don't think that it will screw her up : ) In the long run, it will probably help her adjust to new situations better.

Just curious, what does your husband do that you move so often? Will he always be moving for his job? I love to move, but I think every 3 months would difficult, especially with kids.

Good luck!
Wendy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 6:25pm

He is an X-ray tech. He works for a temp company that puts a tech in a hospital that has a vacancy. It could be for a maternity leave or a shift that they can't fill with someone permanent.

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Registered: 05-08-2004
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 7:06pm

Tami,


I am currently putting some links together for Desiree and I will give them to you as well if you want. I have a ton of free links and info on homeschooling. Do I have your email addresse? If not just email it to me through my profile and I will send the links :)

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:50pm

Tami,
I kind of figured that was the type of job he had. Before I was a SAHM, I placed therapists in those types of positions. I always thought that would be a great job to have - what a great way to explore different cities. I never thought about how it would difficult it would be with a family...of course I didn't have kids back then : )

Hope whatever you decide works out for you!
Wendy

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Registered: 11-13-2003
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 2:28am

Tami,

Sorry I'm so late responding, but, I had to say that moving kids every couple months isn't the best thing...I know, that was my childhood. My dad worked a job that made him travel, and my mom stayed home. But when we were little, we would go in and out of school. It was hard. You try to make a friend, then leave. It's hard to explain unless you've been there, kwim?

As far as your parents, and thier fear of your marriage breaking up due to your dh being away for so long, well... that was also my childhood...sorry to say. But once we started full time school, mom stayed "home" with us, and dad still travelled. after years of him not being there for many things, it was no suprise that the marriage ended....BUT...... they are DIFFERENT people than you and your dh!!!! (and my mom was 17 when she married...she already had my older sister...so the age MAY be a factor in the whole thing lol)

I hope you and your dh will find a solution that works for you and your family.

Lesley

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