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| Thu, 07-15-2004 - 2:06pm |
Hi, I have posted about DH's family here before. I live next to to not just MIL and FIL but BIL and his family as well. And my husbands grandparents live right down below us as well. They never have anything good to say about me or the way I am raising my son. I have been potty training. We ahve been using the naked method and it has worked great. DS keeps his underwear dry all day. The only thing is sometimes after he pees it takes me a while to get them back on him. So today I couldn't get ds to put his underwear back on. He was running aorund in just his shirt. But I fugured what did it hurt...it was just me and him and he knows that we don't go outdoors like that. Anyway I hear someone trying to tear down my door! I run into the living room completely forgetting about DS's naked bottom. It was my husbands grandmother. She has never knocked at my door.if for some reason it is not locked she will just storm on in. BTW,I happen to think it is rude to barge into someone else's home without knockin,but I let it slide. So she looks down and ask first thing why he is naked. I explain the potty training thing. So then she shouts at him to go use the potty. DS hides behind my back. In his defense I say he has just used the bathroom and I think he is doing pretty good. But here is the problem DH's aunt is in for a couple of days. She doesn't like me and doesn't act like she does. She always has something bad to say about the way I parent and how perfect her granddaughter is. I know everyone thinks their children and grandchildren are perfect but that doesn't give her the right to put down mine. So after she leaves I tell DHthat now his grandmother will run and tell his aunt about ds running around in the buff and that she would have something to say about it. Get this,he gets mad at me! He doesn't see anything wrong with the way his family is always interferring and putting me down. And when they are not putting me down they are ignoring me! I hate living here,but I love my husband. I jsut wish we had a house that wasn't so close to his family. Thanks for letting me vent.




Yikes!!! That is ALOT to deal with!!!
You didn't ask for advice I will bite my nosy tounge..lol. But (((((((((((((SUPER HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))
to you!!!!
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I feel your pain almost to the T.
My MIL and FIL and most of my husbands family do not like me, for what reason, I do not know to this day.
I was pretty much treated the same way you are now, and my husband acted the same way your did.
I don't have much advice on what to do, since in my situation, we eneded up moving
Your husband is your partner. He agreed to love and stand by you when he married you and he's *not* fulfilling that agreement. He needs to realize that he is picking his family over his own wife and that is unacceptable.
He needs to make a choice as to what's more important: the woman he promised to love, subsequently married and who bore his child or his nosy, rude and uncaring family. If he chooses his family, then the apron strings will never be cut and you will *never* be happy because he does not care about your feelings.
You have some tough decisions to make, but I wouldn't put up with that crap.
Good luck - you need it!
Lisa
Hi there,, if you remember I too live next to my MIL,, My SIL,, and my BIL lives down the road so I know what you are dealing with. If I had to live here years ago,, It would never work,, we didn't get a long either,, but some how afters YEARS we all
HTH,
Shelby
SAHM to Haylei
My DH and I made an agreement before we got married and had kids,that we wouldn't allow either of our moms to tell us how to raise our kids or stick their noses into our business.
Hopefully you will be able to move away from your overbearing in-laws or your DH will realize that he is VERY WRONG to side with his family rather then his WIFE!Don't let your in-laws tell you how to raise your child.That is your right as his mom,and no one else!
Hugs,Heather