Living in “Pause”

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Registered: 03-30-2011
Living in “Pause”
Tue, 04-05-2011 - 5:40pm

Do you ever feel like part or all of your life is on hold? Instead of going out and doing what you want to do, you keep waiting for things to “get better”. For example, you have a burning desire to travel, but instead of making it happen, you say “I’ll wait until I have a better job”, “I’ll wait until I have more money saved”, or “I’ll wait until the kids get older.” And you look up, and 10 years have gone by and you haven’t gone anywhere.

Of course you need to plan and think things through, but you have to be careful about not

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Registered: 10-15-2001
Wed, 04-06-2011 - 12:36pm

Yeah - For a long time I was waiting for all the kids to be in school.

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Registered: 06-03-2003
Thu, 04-14-2011 - 9:31am
this is so my life right now...when I was working, I was just "waiting" to find my man so I could get started on my married with kids life...thought I might go back to work after having a couple of kids but that never happened, cuz it was not a good time, not the right place, or it would be cheaper for me to stay home but now it is 20 yrs later and five kids later and it just kind of hit me again when I moved with my dh's work and we are "stuffed" in this little house with 7 people and not able to find any good rentals, believe me if I could buy a house I would have bought one....but I was waiting for the finances to level out but that is a night mare to say the least....I was just waiting for my dh to "smarten up" and get with it but "he is busy", "he is tired", "can't talk right now", no wonder I "going nuts" .....I never know whether I am coming or going, feel like I have no "plan of action" cuz I am waiting for my dh's work....I never feel like I am in charged, if only I knew what I know now, back then it would have made everything so much so many ways.... Now what do I do???? Susan