Looking to chat a little

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Looking to chat a little
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Sun, 09-19-2004 - 12:43am
Hello, my name is Allison, I have a 3 year old and 7 month old both boys. I stay at home and have since my first was born. I am having a hard time these days adjusting to being at home and being the one that has sacrificed everything for everyone else. I just need some support and encouragement to get me through. I don't have a lot of time to take to myself because the littlest needs me a lot at the moment. My time is early in the morning or whenever I get lucky. But I just really need a complete break from being needed 24/7. I find that I miss my time I used to have to myself to do what made me happy. I love my boys, but am feeling burned out at the moment and feel like I need a vacation from my family. I know things will get better, but I just need to get through this time.
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Registered: 01-06-2004
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 9:30pm
Welcome to the board. My name is Mel. I have two boys ages 5 and 9 months old.
Not much time to write right now, but I wanted to welcome you to the board.


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Registered: 08-16-2004
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:39am
wellcome!

i have not been on this board very long. but i know there are very nice supportive poeple here. i have a 3 1/2 yr. boy names gabriel. and we are trying for a 2nd right now.

i would love to chat with you anytime!! we can email as well if you like. supermnasmomma@hotmail.com. i look forward to hearing from you. and keep your chin up!! it will get better!! take care, lynn
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:51am
Hi Allison,my name is melissa and I am a stay at home mom of 12month old Ashley. I completely understand the way you are feeling. I also watch a couple of my friends kids during the week and find myself at the end of the day wishing for any adult to stop by or a padded room that I can go in and just do whatever I want scream...read a book...go the bathroom without an audience. Its also frustrating when the friends I watch their kids for say oh I am going to stop at the tanners before I pick the kids up or I need to do this errand. I of course say its fine and then silently scream in my head why can't I get 15 minutes to myself. Then I lookk at my child and her face and all the things I have been able to capture while being at home that I would have missed and have had a day care person tell me what happened rather than experience, and think of my friends who have to work and feel like having kids is more of a chore rather than pleasure and a great experience and feel very sorry for them and very grateful that I am able to spend these important years with my child and not at work. Yes I get stressed and need adult conversation, and yes I feel like I get run over more than I should. But I thank god every day that I am fortunate enough to have the job of Ashley's mom and thats what keeps me going. ( I also joined Tupperware and told my husband that I get a least one night out a week to sell Tupperware and that has been a blast for both of us he gets his daddy time and I get me time.) Anyways I hoped this helped a little, I plan on visiting this board often as I find it so far very helpful and its only my 2nd day on it! Keep smiling and know that you are not alone in your feelings.

Take

Care

Melissa
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 9:44am
i only have a 7 month old, sahm too.... wiling to chat as well! :)
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Registered: 09-21-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 1:54pm
Hi Allison. I'm Denise and I am at home with 2 boys as well (an almost 3 year old and a 15 month old). I can totally relate to how you feel. I did try to go back to work part time when my oldest was 1 and it was a disaster. Now that I know staying home is VERY hard and going back to work is also hard, I feel trapped quite a bit, especially since I have NO assistance from family or friends. I try to make some (though little) time for myself - I get the 2 kids to nap at the same time every day so I at least get an hour or 2 there. Then when my husband gets home, I take a half hour to take a walk by myself. I also signed up for an exercise class through a local college to get our for one hour a week (better than nothing).

I have to ask though - could you be suffering from PMS? It sounds crazy, I know, but I just discovered that this is a problem I was having. It hits women harder after giving birth (and can increase in severity with each birth) and you start to experience mood swings and depression a week before your period. I had never had PMS before so I didn't realize that this was my problem. I'd be curious to know if you think this could be happening to you too.