Lost Wedding Band...WWYD?

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Lost Wedding Band...WWYD?
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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 1:30pm
Hey Ladies! WWYD? My hubby went surfing the other day and his wedding band slipped off of his finger into the Pacific Ocean. We have been married for over 15 years, so that band was pretty much a part of his body. He is more upset about it than I am. I guess we will get him another band at some point, but now that the one and only original is lost forever, it just doesn't seem *that* important to replace it. We have a very solid union, and that is what matters most. So...my questions are: does your DH wear a wedding band? If he were to lose it, would you replace it right away? How important is it to *you* that he has a band around his finger?

Thanks! emi :)

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Registered: 08-17-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 1:50pm
Get him one for valentine's day. It would be a romantic twist and he would be surprised. You could have the band dedicated by your minister. He might feel better. I know if I lost my rings I would feel weird with out it.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 2:02pm

well my dh no longer wears one,, he was at work one day and he was busy working and heard this sizzling sound, looked down and litterly saw red hot burning on his finger,, he was working with a battery and his band acted like the conduster and fried his finger, he had 3rd degree burns and now has a peranment ring around his finger. That ring was lost cause when he pulled it off with his other fingers he burnt those and the ring went flying, he ran to find cold water. Luckliy that was his work band and he still has the one that we got married in. It has been 2 years and he can just get to where he can wear it on one night out,, that's it!


So like you said you know the bond is there but I like the idea of getting him one for Valentines,,, GL,,

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Registered: 10-21-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 2:26pm
My DH and I have been married 7 1/2 years and together for almost 13 years. He hasn't worn his wedding ring since the first year of marriage. He grew caught it at work and it ripped into his finger so he took it off until the finger was better. Well apparently he snagged it harder than he thought because it got a crack, wghich needed to be fixed... My DH is notorious for procrastination and he still hasn't taken it to be fixed (although his finger healed fineLOL). Now of course he's put on some weight so he CAN'T get the ring back on. I guess I don't care because I had to think for the past 10 mintues as to when he had it on last. Plus I don't even know WHERE the ring is...I'm sure that he does and I know he loves me so everything's AOK with me. Shelley
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Registered: 11-17-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 3:29pm
I think the idea of getting him another on Valentine's Day is great. it does sound like he was pretty upset. I know my hubby would want another along with me. I never knew it, but my hubby never wore his after the first year. Come to find out it was very uncomfortable and hurt his finger. We went down and got him one that he liked and picked out. it has been 10 years since then and he has never taken it off.

Trish :)

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 3:36pm
My husband did not lose his, but his cracked at work while he was working on a machine.

We went out and bought another, not to show that he is married, but just because I guess. We have only been married 5 years, so we were able to get the same one.

I think it is up to you two and why you think you should or should not get another.

Mel

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Registered: 07-30-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 3:53pm
My DH would be heartbroken if he lost his ring. He won't even take it off to wash grease off his hands, he just slides it up on his finger, washes underneath it, and slides it back down. I apreciate how important it is to him to wear his ring, so it's automatically important to me (yeah I would like him to besides the fact, but his significance makes it "important" to me).

Your DH obviously thinks it's important to him, so I think for that reason alone, it should be replaced. Valentine's Day would be a sweet day to give him a new one, but he might like picking out his own. I know guys don't usually make a big deal out of a particular ring, but I think some care more about it, but just don't express it. Maybe there is some way you can do both? Get it for him on Valentine's Day, but let him pick it out? Just a thought

Angie

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 4:59pm
My dh and I have only been married 5 years, and he has lost his twice! Both times we ran out and replaced it right away. We both like the idea of having rings.

Coincidentally, we had to have mine cut off yesterday. With all the cold weather and the hand washing I've been doing to keep from giving Luke my sinus infection, my skin is very raw and cracked, to the point where my ring finger swelled up much bigger than it ever got when I was pg. And since the skin underneath was so raw already, getting it cut off hurt like heck! I was in tears the whole time, in so much physical pain I didn't have any emotion left to be sad about getting my ring cut off. We'll get it fixed when my finger is healed and back to its normal size.

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 5:55pm
omg, i'm so sorry! are you ok? sounds like a nightmare! get some antibiotics already!

clarity

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 5:58pm
well, dh's ring is a TATOO on his ring finger, so if he lost that we have BIG problems, lol. it's not really that important to me though, (the tat was his idea) the only time i'd care would be if i thought he lost it on purpose. i think the valentine gift is a good idea though.

clarity

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 6:13pm
I'm fine! A little neosporin and it's much better already. I don't know if you've ever seen the tool they use to cut rings off (kind of like a can opener), but it's impossible to do it without jabbing the ring into your finger. Since it was already raw, cracked and bleeeding, it was pretty painful. But it's almost good as new.

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