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| Mon, 07-24-2006 - 2:07pm |
I have a bunch of questions for those of you who have SAH for any length of time....I never have (this is my 3rd month) and so, maybe these are typical things....who knows?
Do you always feel like you are "on the clock"? If so, how do you deal with it when DH leaves his shirt on the floor 15 feet from the hamper without choking him with the shirt? If not, how do you unwind?
Do you ever feel like you have no social life anymore? I had no idea how much I depended on my work buddies for social support, now that I'm not working, they sort of treat me differently (leprosy comes to mind).
How in the world did all this stuff get done while I was working?????!!!! The baby would definitely be eating dust bunnies if I wasn't home!
For my part, I think being a SAHM is one of the best (accidental) things that could have happened to me, but I still have a few things to work through. A church missionary came around the other day, and I talked her ear off for about three hours!! I know, it's a bit pathetic. So, tell me....how do you all deal? Any tips?

the co worker thing is easy they probably feel like your on vacation, what do you have to compl;ain about .. just be there when they call, count on your friends to be there not your ex co workers, because your NEW co worker loves you uncondtionally..
i feel like that too anyone who will listen, it's a transtion from working mom to
stay at home mom and will take getting used too.At 1st i didn't love it but now i can't imagine going to work...
"Do you always feel like you are "on the clock"? If so, how do you deal with it when DH leaves his shirt on the floor 15 feet from the hamper without choking him with the shirt? If not, how do you unwind?"
I did at first. It took a while of this being not "a job" and becoming just how my life is for me to stop feeling like it was something I had to stay on top of or busy doing. Dan doesn't leave his shirts, or anything else, on the floor. He's a bit anal in the neat-freak department. But this is how I look at it. I don't go to his office and leave food wrappers, dishes, clothing, soda cans, junk, etc all over the place messing it up. Being a SAHM is what I do, so in essence the house is my "office". So don't you dare come into my office and mess it up! It's just courtasy not to leave your crap out for someone else to pick it up. This is home, not the Hilton! How do I unwind? I read. Come online. Same things I did before having kids.
You should check out MOPS (Mothers Of Pre-Schoolers) in your area, or Mommy and Me for adult interaction with others who've BTDT. Also, there really is no beating this here board. The ladies are great.
Hi,
I too am new to this board and when I saw your question about DH leaving his shirt on the floor, I just had to respond. My DH and I have been married for just about 4 years. When we got married I was working a FT job and a PT job, he worked FT, but I still did the majority of the housework. My DH leaves his clothes (pants, socks, shirts, everything) whereever he happens to take them off-bedroom floor, bathroom floor, basement, even the dining/living room. At first I used to hound him about it, but NEVER picked up his clothes. Then I just decided it was not worth getting upset over. So I told him that I was only washing whatever was in the hamper/wash basket. And if wasn't in there and he needed it, he could wash it himself. This has worked somewhat, he still leaves his clothes laying around, but he also does a lot of his own wash. Now that I am a SAHM, yes I have more time to do laundry, etc... but my philosophy is "I am your wife, not your maid. I am a grown woman and can manage to get my clothes and the babie's clothes in the hamper, so can you. You are a grown man (43 yrs.), if you want someone to pick up after you, let's hire a maid/cleaning service." If I were you, I would just let the shirt lay there and if he asks about it, tell him, "you left in on the floor, if you want it washed put it in the hamper or do it yourself!" Good luck!
That is SO funny that you mentioned that. This morning, DH was first looking for his brown pants, and then for a pair of dress socks that he likes. He was all frustrated and running late. I had done all the laundry and while a load was still in the dryer the rest was done.
He finally found them. Right where he left them, wadded up next to his computer desk. I didn't even think to look for clothes there, so I guess he pretty much did that to himself.
Not a bad plan....not a bad plan at all....