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man of the house?
| Tue, 08-07-2007 - 10:13pm |
So i am a SAHM and my husband is driving me crazy! I have a four year old and a 15 month old daughters .I stay at home while he works because we can't afford daycare. So my problem is that he thinks that since he works all day he controls everything. i am in charge of paying bills, but when he over spends it's my fault. And that he is the man of the house and he can do whatever he wants. Which leaves me stuck at home all the time with the kids. So today he didn't come home for lunch (which he usually does) and was late comming home from work. So I asked him about it and he said he had a busy day. Well an hour later he tells me he went out and got a loan for $2,000
for a new jet ski. So now im mad not because of the jet ski but because he lied and didn't say something. Like I have no say in our finances. And when I asked him about lying he said im the man of the house and to drop it. WHAT??? I don't think so. So what am I supposed to do? What would you do? i think I am going to lie to him about stupid stuff for the rest of the week so he know how it feels. Im tiered of feeling worthless because i stay at home and take care of house and the kids. I am soooo frazzled! Please help!
for a new jet ski. So now im mad not because of the jet ski but because he lied and didn't say something. Like I have no say in our finances. And when I asked him about lying he said im the man of the house and to drop it. WHAT??? I don't think so. So what am I supposed to do? What would you do? i think I am going to lie to him about stupid stuff for the rest of the week so he know how it feels. Im tiered of feeling worthless because i stay at home and take care of house and the kids. I am soooo frazzled! Please help!

That would make me sooo mad if my DH ever pulled that. If the cost of the jet ski was not an issue then I would not even speak to him all week. I wouldn't cook for him or get his laundry done, nothing. That is me though if it is an issue then I'd write him a letter and explaine to him that the cost of a maid is at the minimum $20.00 and hour and a personal chef is about $100.00 per meal and laundry service is about $10.00 perload and some grocery stores will bring your grocerys to your house for about a $30 fee, etc... and how lucky he is to get all this for free. Or you could go out and buy something expensive and sexy and flaunt it in front of him and he can't touch or not tell him you bought it or how much it was oh so many things you can do.....My guess is he is already feling guilty for buying it which is why he is saying what he is saying...So sorry...Hope all works out...Oh you could always say you'll need to work overtime to keep it....My DH bought somethig way too expensive and I did tell him he had to work OT to keep it or find the money some other way which he is doing....(selling stuff on e-bay)
Jenn
I'm sorry you are going through a rough time. I agree with the pp he probably does feel guilty that's why he is saying that man of the house crap.
I wish my husband would say something like that to me. I've been known to go on strike, and trust me it wasn't pretty. Dh knows anything that has to do with money, he has to run it by my first. Usually if it is something small I don't care, just as long as I have money to pay the mortgage, bills, groceries, etc. But anything huge like a boat or what have you he'd have to run by me first. Point blank, not excuses, or he knows it's going back. lol
It sucks but that's just how some men think, but I bet if you DID go on strike he would definitely realize your worth.
I hope it gets better.
Felisha
Hugs to you!
Wow that's a tough one.