Manners or the lack of........

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Manners or the lack of........
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 2:32pm

After volunteering in our school for 9 years I was shocked at the lack of manners alot of kids have. It seems to be the "thing" nowdays to be as rude as possible. I was constantly fussing at someone to be nice, etc.

Since I started doing in home daycare, it's a fight here too. Just today I have been treated to a day-long gas fest with one child passing gas and the other laughing about it(and they are girls!), a 20 minute lunch with the almost 4 yr old. smacking and slopping with her mouth open the entire time, having to remind them a hundred times to say "please" when they want something from me and "thank you" when I get it.

I also help with my nephews who are 15, 10 and 7 and let's just say...manners are something they know NOTHING about! They scream, yell, insult, hit, curse, name call at each other, tell everyone(including me) "I hate you!", throw things, etc. They are RUDE!

Has anyone else noticed this? What happened to teaching kids manners as soon as they learned to talk and making it a rule?

Sherri with a "manners" pet peeve

Sherri ~ mom to Brooke and Tyler, wife to Randall and fan of Nascar's Carl Edwards

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 3:17pm

One thing that my dh and I pride ourselves on is that our kids have great manners.

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 3:21pm

Yes, I have noticed it myself. I have also seen adults do the same thing!! Which is probably why the kids are rude, it goes hand in hand.

I wanted to ask you, you said you run a daycare out of your home, how did that come about?? I was thinking of babysitting maybe a few kids, for money, I have baysitte in the past for no money, family doesn't pay, and how does that all work?? I could probably hadnle three kids at a time, since I myself have three children. Ages 9, 6 and 4.

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 3:50pm

It's not really a day care. I guess you would say that I babysit. I am not licensed or anything. But people seem to take offense to an adult saying she babysits LOL so they call it "in home day care".

A family friend has two little girls(just turned 5 and almost 4) who had been in a day care center for the last 2 1/2 years or so. When the baby boy was born in May she wanted him to be with a sitter rather than in a day care enviroment with several babies in a room with only two caregivers.

When she started looking for a sitter, I offered. My grandma passed away a year ago and with my two kids in school I just needed something to do to keep me occupied and my mind off things. I have the almost 4 year old Tuesday through Friday, the 5 year old on Monday and Friday and the baby Monday through Friday. She pays me 15.00 a day per child.

If you are thinking of doing it, think hard!!! It's REALLY hard to take care of someone else's kids when they have different rules, routines, etc. Also, you are tied down all the time with someone else's kids. I am stuck at home 5 days a week now! We had alot of trouble with establishing MY rules at first.

If you do decide to do it, make a contract and make them sign it! Put your hours, your pay rate, EVERYTHING in there!

Sherri

Sherri ~ mom to Brooke and Tyler, wife to Randall and fan of Nascar's Carl Edwards

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 4:28pm
Oh I definately agree with the contracts and rules, I was looking at a website called craigslist, and a woman was from my twon, looking for another Mom to watch her kids while she did errands, not all the time just once in awhile. I have one kid who stays at home with me all day, so I thought I could handle that. Heck I've had 7 kids in this household at one time and I did not crack, and i wasn't paid either. I haven't discussed it with my husband yet, I'm not sure if he would be into it, but I do like kids, they don't bother me one bit. Just thought I'd ask.
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 4:53pm

I have to pipe in on both subjects.


1) I agree that it is the lack of manners from adults that teach kids to be rude. I still try to make it a habit to say please and thank you and my 15 month old can say

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 5:10pm

You know Sherri, I don't care what anyone says, I blame television. I grew up on Little House on the Prairie and The Brady Bunch, and I learned good manners from that. Take a good look at the filth they show on tv nowadays! Kids are disrespectful and mouthy. It's my HUGE pet peeve as well. I remember when I was 13, a boy mouthed off to the teacher, and I was appalled... it was the first time I had ever seen anyone show such disrespect, and now it seems common place. How very very sad it is too that our society is going downhill like this. Just think... someday these children will be running the country.
It's so important now more than ever to make sure that our own children are raised to be polite and respectful.

Just keep reminding them... hopefully it will sink in eventually!

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