The Morning Scream
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| Thu, 05-12-2005 - 9:46am |
Hello all...tell me what you think...I've posted here several times, but I can't seem to really get it together on what to do about my anxiety with SAH and having a baby for the first time.
DS wakes up screaming every morning...like someone is pulling his toenails off one by one. He does not know how to wake up and just BE. Just lie in his crib and maybe play with some of the toys or with his feet or just wake up and talk to himself. Therefore, every single morning, I wake up with anxiety and a pounding heart and dread going into his room. He usually wakes up around 7:15 and I get in there around then or soon thereafter, but not until he's made sure he's good and screaming for my entry. Today, I decided to let him scream until I am ready to go in b/c I am tired to going into his room every single day upset and not looking forward to seeing him. My mom says it's probably just b/c he's hungry. Well, he wakes up from naps this way, too. I think he just hates being alone, but what am I teaching him? Some parents would think it cruel to let a baby scream upon waking and some would say let them scream just like they might when you put them down to sleep. That eventually, they'll stop screaming and realize it won't get you to jump at every little whimper they make. I don't know b/c I've only ever just gone ahead and got in there as fast as possible. But today, I've had it. I hate waking up anymore to the constant terrorizing screaming like he's being tortured. Anyone else have a baby this way? Oh, he's almost 1..in a week, actually. Doesn't walk yet but is on the brink of it. He's teething, BUT like I said, he's always been this way, from day one. So it's not whether or not he doesn't feel good, b/c then I'd have to say he's NEVER felt good and I know that's not true. How do you teach your baby to wake up and not scream or am I just dreaming the impossible?
Debbie

I too am the mommy of a pissy waker, lol!
Laura,
That does make sense...I too am a slow waker and feel drained in the am....maybe I'll try what you said. The few times I have gone in to wake him up myself I admit, he doesn't scream. I guess it's worth a try to not have to wake up upset myself all the time.
As far as Texas, we are still witing to see if dh's boss is going to hire him for a job in South Texas. MOMTO2KIDS has a friend who lives in the city we're considering and I'm emailing her about it to find out as much as possible. In any case, we're more than ready to leave where we are and hope to be in that state ASAP. Thanks for asking.
Debbie
I would have to agree with the other posters about your son, get up before. I love the morings I am up before my kids are, I get to have a few minutes to get things done and collect myself before they wake up. I have one who wakes up full throttle everyday, not grumpy just ready to go. Then the other one takes awhile and can be quite a grump when he wakes up. So good luck with finding what workd for you. I have found that is the key. Good luck with everything and keep me posted.
K
I am sorry you are going through this. It's hard to have a child who screams a lot.