My 8 y/o dd has been complaining

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My 8 y/o dd has been complaining
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 6:42am

that her tummy hurts. I notice it starts hurting right before she gets on the bus in the a.m. It is not every day, just frequently enough for me to wonder what is going on. She also complains to me when I come to school for playground duty (every day I am at school). She tells me she wants to come home when I am done). Her teacher and I usually convince her to stay. If she does come home, she has to go to bed and stay there - after all, she came home sick!! She usually has a miraculous recovery and is eating and running around within an hour. She even went to the point of telling me she had symptoms of a UTI and I took her to the dr. Her urine was clean. SOOOOO to make a long story short, she was complaining again yesterday when I got to school, so I broke down and brought her home (we leave Friday for Florida, so if she was truly sick, I want her well). Anyhow, the same thing happened, she was better within an hour. I tried talking to her and she wouldn't tell me that anything was wrong. So I sent dh in when he got home from work. Turns out, there are 2 little boys that are not being nice to her. Hitting her on the bus, kicking her, calling her names, pushing her out of line, etc. So I emailed her teacher right away. Her teacher immediately called me. We talked about it and she was going to rearrange her classroom so that Katie wasn't near the boys anymore and she will talk to the bus driver this a.m. and get one of them a permanent front seat. The one little boy has serious issues at home, and I agree with her that he really needs positive attention (I see it on the playground). His mom was attacked by her older son, who was then sent to Juvy Hall, etc. It seems that there is not any discipline or supervision for him, therefore he has no boundaries, etc. I know there are problems and I tried to explain to dd that Matt has some troubles at home, and although that is not an excuse for him to mistreat her and others in her classroom, it is why it happens. He really doesn't know how to make friends and that she needs to try her hardest to live by the golden rule when it comes to Matthew. Hopefully, we won't have any more phantom tummy aches and her teacher will be keeping an eye on the situation. He apparently has been having bus trouble off and on thru the school year, as well as bothering others in the classroom. Sigh - only in second grade and we have to deal with this stuff. So, just wanted to share - anyone else have a similar story/other ideas or suggestions?

Wendy

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 10:45am
I think making sure she is not near this children is a good start. Also, I think that maybe you should sit down with her and let her know that it is okay to let you know these things. Seems as though she was afraid to let you know it was going on.
I hope things get better for her at school.

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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 10:57am
Thanks Mel, you're right. She was afraid to tell us, and she was also afraid to tell her teacher, because she did not want to be accused of tattling. So, I used it as an opportunity for both girls, to stress to them how important it is to tell mom and/or dad that we are here to help and if we don't know answers to their problems, we will certainly work together to get them. She still had a tummy ache when she got on the bus this a.m., but I think she is going to be fine. I'll be able to check on her at lunch when I go.
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