My Dad makes me so mad

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Registered: 03-26-2003
My Dad makes me so mad
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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 12:24am
My dad irritates me sometimes. I was telling my parents about how DH's interview was with Human resources and not the radiology director so we are hoping that the director will call and intrview DH for the job opening. Now, I know my parents don't like it that we travel but it is what we think we have to do right now. And I know my Dad's intentions are good but it upset me. He says, Well if (DH) isn't too picky about what job he has, I was talking to a guy who told me that they are hard up for construction works building houses nearby. My DH is an xray tech not a construction worker!!!!He thinks that DH should take a job in construction until he can find a opening in his field. DH isn't that manually inclined if you know what I mean. And he is so smart. Why should he waste his abilities at a job that he wouldn't be good at just so we can be closer to Grandparents and family. I wouldn't ever ask him to do that. That is why I am venting to you all and not him. I think he would be highly offended if I told him that. Thanks for listening!!!
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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 11:45am
Do you think I am being too snobby?? I just don't know what to think.
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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 11:58am

I don't think you're snobby at all, sweetie. It's how you feel. I can understand totally. It actually sounds like something my parents might tell me about my DH if he ever was looking for another place to work "Why doesn't he sack groceries?" LOL! Well, maybe because he'd be wasting 8 years of education?? Not that there's anything wrong with sacking groceries or construction work. Heck, I think some construction workers make more than my husband! And it's not all about income, either. What it IS about is validating who your DH is, his talents, and what interests him. makes him tick and makes him happy. And it seems like you feel like he's not validating your DH, and I totally understand.

Don't let it stress you too much. I'd trade your dad's comment for my mom's meaness anyday, LOL! I know it's hard with parents. It's like they know the exact way to get under our skin sometimes. Mine do all the time :) But like you said--he probably didn't mean any harm. I would just chalk it up to ignorance.

Hugs,

Sofia




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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 12:07pm

I don't think you're being too snobby. You only have one life, don't settle!!

I know our parents/grandparents generation was more of a "do whatever you have to do to survive" generation, but ours is more about realizing that instead of letting life just happen to you, you have to live your life!

I'm sure he was just trying to help...don't let it get to you too badly. But don't settle either, because there is nothing more regrettable in one's life than knowing that you've settled for less than what you really want!










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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 4:22pm
Not at all snobby. You are doing what is best for your family and what makes you all happy.

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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 5:39pm
Tami,
That is rude. Don't let what your dad feels about your situation make you feel bad. This is your family, and it's none of his business. Good call on not telling your dh what he said!