My kids are out of control

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Registered: 03-26-2003
My kids are out of control
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Wed, 07-12-2006 - 8:13pm

Had to log back on here and say I feel a little better about the spanking incident, and that it's not just me, but that we have kids who just push us to the edge! My DH *lost* it with my oldest DS Matthew (who will be 8 in September) tonight at dinner.

DH came home with pizza that I called in. He also was nice enough to stop and get the kids slushies. He made the unfortunate mistake of getting different flavors. You have to give all of them the exact same thing or they want the other ones'. He put the cherry down in front of Justin, and the lime down in front of Matthew, and a lime and cherry in front of the girls--which I promptly poured into sippy cups, LOL! And Tessa whined about that, wanting a "big girl cup" WHEW!! So we started out the meal with WHINING, of course. Then DH was stressed because he had a hard time at work this afternoon with someone hit by a car on a bike, took a long time to stabilize them, making him tired & stressed when he walked in.

Well, Matthew had a fit, wanting the cherry slushie that Justin had. Now how spoiled is that?? You get pizza, a slushie, and you throw a fit??!! My parents never brought us pizza & slushies, we ate weird Greek food every night! So he runs off into the family room screaming. I yell at him and send him to Time Out in his room for his spoiled, ungrateful behavior. Michael (DH) takes the slushie and drinks a sip and says "Fine, if you don't want it, I'll drink it" which causes Matthew to scream even louder on his way up the stairs.

He lay in the doorway of his room crying "I'm hungry!!" like we were starving him for half our meal. Finally, I let him down to come eat because he'd been quiet for 2 minutes. I was waiting for Michael to deal with him, calm him down, but I really think he was just too worn out from the sad events at work.

Matthew comes down, and we have pepperoni pizza and veggie pizza, and Michael gets up and asks him which kind he wants. Does he respond nicely? No! He makes this mean face (because he's still mad) and slams his chair back. Justin, next to him, has his fingers on the side of his chair and Matthew slammed his fingers between the 2 chairs!! Justin *shrieks* and screams at the top of his lungs (turns out his fingers are bruised, but OK).

My husband LOST IT. He grabbed Matthew around the waist, put him over his shoulder like a sack of potatoes, carried him upstairs and dumped him on his bed, and I heard him shouting at him: "YOU'D BETTER LEARN TO CONTROL YOUR TEMPER YOUNG MAN!!" Which I think is kind of humorous to be *yelling* (control your temper? Yelling it? Hello? LOL!). Michael rarely, rarely raises his voice with the kids. Granted, he didn't spank him (like I probably would have had I been alone). But I am not the only parent who is losing my temper with my kids these days!

As an addendum to my spanking thread, I thought I would post this and say: Is it us or our kids?? Do we have spoiled kids here? What is going on? I have not seen my DH this mad at one of the kids in a long time. Matthew is still up there screaming! I'm starting to really, really think my kids are out of control. It's gotten worse with the Summer now that they're not in school.

Thanks for listening my vent. I think I have "high-spirited" kids, but I'm getting a little worried about their behavior lately. It's non-stop fighting, making messes, bad attitudes, tantrums, etc. Even my normally patient, happy hubby finally lost it tonight! What are we doing wrong here? ::SIGH::

Sofia




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Registered: 12-01-2005
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 3:24pm
Sofia, I didn't mean to send the impression that I think you don't praise your kids. If I did I am sorry.I was just trying to explain what works for ME.

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