My mom....

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Registered: 11-05-2004
My mom....
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Fri, 10-28-2005 - 3:39pm
Ok, let me first say my mom is the sweetest woman, and would do anything for us, so I hope this doesnt sound like im bad talking her. But anyway...I signed Dom up for swim/gym class, he has taken these since he was 15 months. And now since hes 3, he takes them by himself, and I watch through the window, the class is an hour long one day a week. So, it was time to sign him up again-they are 6 week sessions, so I signed him up for the class time he always goes to since he has made friends in that class. I dont know when this baby will come, but im the kind of person that doesnt like to stay at home, so I didnt hesitate to sign him up. So, my mom asked me today who was going to take Dom to class when I had the baby. And I said i didnt know, i would have to play it by ear, but he maybe will have to miss one class, depends on the day I have him. She didnt even offer to bring him....she was like oh,ok. I thought she would at least offer to bring him once!
It kind of made me feel bad considering she watches my sisters 3 month old baby like 2-3 times a week. I think she is getting worn out because my sister asks her to watch the baby ALL the time because she has older kids that play sports, etc...and my sister doesnt bring the baby to much(which I dont understand but o well). Then tonight my dh and I are going to his friends bday party, which we really need a night out alone. And i NEVER ask my parents to watch Dom. And my sister was like well, I was going to ask her to watch the baby because we want to go to this football game. I was like GREAT...I dont know, I feel like she is really using my mom, and my mom is getting tired of watching the baby all the time. So, now when I need a sitter, which is like maybe 2-3 times a month, im afraid to ask my mom, she needs a break,too, ya know? Then what if I need someone to bring Dom to school one morning or pick him up? Dh said he would do it, but he has a very demanding job and he works 100% commission, which means, he HAS to work, he cant be taking a few hours off each day or it would kill us. I just feel like I will have no help because my sister has taken my mom over and she has no extra time, am I wrong to feel like this?

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Registered: 08-05-2004
In reply to: kate923
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 4:16pm
Hey Kate...Are you ever going to have this baby? Are you in the final days? My good friend just had her third under age 3 on Friday but before she did she fell and dislocated her knee. Luckily her Physician (dh) was at home to push the knee cap back in place. Then in ER as they were debating as what to do the baby "POPPED" out....Yeah! Her mother and mother in law have been a big help...Here is my opinion...and my guess is that you are the second child...(I was a Psych Major and second child...to an sister, no doubt!) Ask your mom for help. She might be waiting for you to ask. And she is able to tell your sister if she has been doing too much.
Wish you well with this next week!
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Registered: 11-13-2003
In reply to: kate923
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 4:52pm

I feel for you Kate. My sil used to take advantage of my mil all the time with watching her kids.

I would just go ahead ask your mom to watch Dom for the couple of hours so you and dh can go out. Tell your sister to watch her own kid, and that you and dh deserve to at least go out for a few hours alone before the baby is born. This may be your last chance in quite a while to have a kids free evening.

I'm sure your mom will understand as well. If she is too tired and says no she wont take Dom, then if it were me lol, Id probably get a little snarky and tell her she wouldnt be so tired if she didnt take my sisters kid all the time lol...

Do what you feel best in doing, but I'd just ask her. There's no harm.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: kate923
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 1:26am
Sometimes moms are weird, lol. My mom loves the girls so much, but she never offers to watch them for Michael and I to do anything and whenever I bring it up she's always like well we may have plans or we'll play it by ear. They are watching them for me Mon night, b/c I have an early(8am)Tues dr appt and Michael can't get off, b/c he has saved all his vacation time to be home for 2 wks after Ava's born. It feels like I'm eing a pain to them though. That stinks that your sis uses her all the time. It sounds like she needs to find another person and split the time her baby spends with your mom and someone else. ((Hugs))
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